(Closed) LISTEN to that little voice inside you

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ver well said. You’re happiness is what is most important! I realized this a while ago, I was about 30, and it’s been all good since!

Post # 5
4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

This was exellently written and very, very important for every Bee, in doubt or not,  to read!!

Post # 6
51 posts
Worker bee

Inspirational thread !! You have been so brave to do this πŸ™‚ I wish you all the happiness in the world . This has been the kindest thing for you and him in the long run . 

Post # 7
9 posts

@lookingahead:  I’m sorry that this is the situation you’ve found yourself in, but good for you on figuring out what you want and deserve. What you did was very brave; I really understand what you’re going through because I broke up with my Fiance not too long ago for some similar reasons. That little voice has been nagging me for so long, too, but I always ignored it. I ignored it to the point where my ‘rationality’ made me believe I was being absurd for even thinking that I should walk away from the relationship, and it continues to do so; every day I debate back and forth whether I made a mistake in breaking up with him. I just need to constantly remind myself that simply having these thoughts and these doubts is enough reason to walk away.


I wish you the best in the future, and endless happiness with someone you do want and very much deserve.


Post # 8
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@lookingahead:  Great post. Thank you for sharing.


I think this should be stickied.

Post # 9
2131 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016


Great post! I can totally relate. I called off my wedding in my last relationship. I was 32 years old and we were together 5 years. Like you, I was relieved and I knew he wasn’t right for me for 4.5 years, it just took me that long to FINALLY listen to that little voice. I was 32 when it ended and was ready to be happy and single and out of nowhere I met my current SO and the difference between the two of them are like night and day. I hear no little voices with my current SO πŸ™‚


Post # 10
296 posts
Helper bee

@lookingahead:  This is a good read for anyone, anywhere. You’re a brave woman and thank you for writing something like this so we can all read it.

A few months before my ex and I broke up, I started having those thoughts. He was going back and forth about whether or not he wanted more kids and told me, “Don’t worry about it now. You don’t want kids until you are 30, so I will decide then.” Ummm….no. That was just ONE of the MANY shitty things he said that made that voice get louder and louder.

I, too, was willing to ignore that voice for the sake of being married since after 3.5 years, that’s what I expected to happen. I have some days where the comfort of being with him seems better than not knowing when I will meet the one for me; but after reading this post, I reminded myself that it’s better to be uncertain on your own than uncertain with the person you are supposed to be sending the rest of your life with.

thank you for the reminder and the inspiration. Big hugs to you, and I can’t wait to hear about your future prince charming πŸ™‚

Post # 11
5569 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@badabing88:  +1 sooo important to understand.

Post # 13
1657 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

This was a wonderful post. I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with that man for as long as you did. Kudos to being brave and leaving πŸ™‚ 

Post # 14
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Thank you for this post.

Although I have never had any negative gut feelings about my fiance, I know many people who have about their significant others and I hope for them that they find their strength to not settle. 

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