(Closed) Listing Grandparents in Programs

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My goodness that is complicated! I think I would almost lean towards not listing any since there are some seriously complicated relationships- adoption, remarriage, step grandparents. It really depends on your relationship with each of them.

Post # 4
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree with PinkPinstripes.  People will often mention in the program the people who have died, but I don’t think you have to list all/any grandparents unless you want to.

I think it really depends on what is important to you and your groom.

Post # 5
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with the above posters not to list any to avoid a lot “how are they related” issues.  BUT if you want to have grandparents listed I would only list the ones that have held an active role to each of you.  Meaning that Dad’s biological parents shouldn’t be listed because you really have no relationship with them other than DNA.  On your FI’s side you should list the all the grandparents and new spouses with the exception of the Stepmother’s parents, unless he has a relationship with them there is no reason for them to be listed.  Flowers go to all listed on the program.  Hope that helps and good luck!!!

Post # 6
306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ours isn’t quite as messy, but my father’s parents both remarried, I grew up calling his father/stepmom “grand” but then restarted a relationship w/ his mom in the past 5 years (and she’ll be there).  We’re listing both the dad and stepmom in our special remembrance section (have passed) but not stepdad, as I never knew him as a grandfather.  His Mom is up w/ my mom’s parents in the family section.

I agree w/ the PPs in general, in that you list who you feel is important to you.  For us, it was important to have a remembrance section since FI’s father has passed, but leaving it off is an option.  And if you don’t treat certain members as grandparents, don’t list them.  

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