Post # 1
So I know that you never do that for a wedding invitiation, but what about a bridal shower? I though you should just put the little slips of paper in with the invitation. My mom just informed me that the registries are actually printed on the invite for my shower, and I was a little mortified!
So is this a breach of etiquette? I mean, I suppose the point of a bridal shower is to open gifts…but still.
Post # 3
Although by the strictest sense it is a breach it is not your breach, it is the hosts. Etiquette does say that gifts should never be mentioned on an invitation (even to say no gifts). But since you are not hosting your own shower you are in the clear. It is also much more socially acceptable for it to be on the shower invites.
Post # 4
@andielovesj: Good point! according to my mom, she has seen the registries printed on all the recent shower invites shes received, which doesn’t mean its right, but like you said, more socially acceptable…
Post # 5
Its not a problem on the shower invites, so you’re OK. I did it that way too.
Post # 6
@Stammie16: Although the point of anyone hosting a shower for someone is to provide an opportunity for the guest of honor to receive gifts, etiquette still does not permit registry information to be included in an invitation.
It is perfectly fine for you to register for gifts as a means of providing family and friends who are not sure what to purchase for you with suggestions as to your tastes and interests. However, the proper means for this information to be conveyed is by word of mouth, when a guest contacts the shower hostess (or one of your family or close friends) to inquire as to whether or not you are registered and, if so, where.
It also is not considered to be proper etiquette for the bride’s mother to host a shower on her daughter’s behalf.
Having said all of this, I know that you did not make either of these decisions. Rather, they were made for you, on your behalf. Also, I am aware of other showers in which the bride’s mother was one of the hosts or was the primary hostess, and I also have received registry information along with the majority of shower invitations I have received. So, even though neither of those practices is proper from an etiquette perspective, it is likely that many of the guests will neither know nor care about these social faux pas.
ETA: I just re-read your OP and realized that you did not say that your mother is hosting the shower, only that she pointed out to you that the registry information is printed on the invitations. I apologize for making what was likely an incorrect assumption based upon my earlier reading of your post.
Post # 7