Post # 1
Today was my first fitting and I love my wedding dress. It is a HUGE princess ballgown that will look lovely in the church. My problem is that the train is just too long, big, and ruffly for the reception. I tried to sit down at the fitting and I could hardly do that. I can’t imagine dancing or simply moving around. The seamstress said she would put the loops in for a nice bustle but even then, its just going to make the whole back look huuuuuuge and bulky.
I love my dress but it would be ridiculous to try to wear it all night for the reception. Would I be able to find a nice dress for the reception? I already spent so much on this dress, I just don’t know what to do. The wedding is less than two months away. Should I cut my losses and get over it? Anyone know if a big princess tulle ballgown can be bustled in a nice, neat way that wont look like I have a huge ass.
Help, I’m pretty much at the end of my rope. I don’t know what to feel right now. I’m so anxious and I feel just awful.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Get a fun sparkly gold or silver dress! You can search all the nice department store websites (eg Nordstrom’s) for evening gowns. They have a lot of white dresses too, if that’s more what you’re into.
Post # 4
@missdream: First take a deep breath….I think with 2 months away you have time to find a reception dress. Now ordering if from a bridal shop prob won’t be an option. Any thoughts on the style you might want for a reception dress?
Dillards and Bebe have a lot of options that can be used for a reception dress…..would you want a short or long dress? I got a reception dress from Dillards!
Post # 5
@missdream: i dont know where in NJ you are but since we are sandwiched btw two large cities I dont see how finding a reception dress in 2 months is a problem especially since all the prom dresses are out. There are also huge malls (ie GS Plaza) and online (Asos, etc)
Post # 6
@missdream: My cousin’s dress is a BBB too (big bulky ballgown) and she had her seamstress bustle her top layer seperately than the under layer. She also had the seamstress REMOVE crinoline from the gown and opted for a petticoat for the ceremony and took the petticoat off for the reception. The dress was not bulky at ALL in the bottom, and the bustle of the skirt continued to give the dress a “full” look, but not bulky!
Post # 7
Don’t know what size you are, and I can’t imagine why you’re crying. Just go to your local mall and find a white evening gown.
Macy’s, Ann Taylor, JCrew, Dillards, Nordstrom… there are tons of options
Post # 8
Do you have a photo of your dress?
I had a HUGE train and it bustled beautifully and wasn’t at all a bother to sit and dance in. Here are some pictures..it can be done!
The seamstress put in a color coding system that was practically fool proof. I think the bustle had seven or eight points again all color coded and easy to do. It took us no more than five mintues to complete and as you can see I had a lot of train (the longest Maggie Sottero made).
Post # 9
If you have an Austrian or French bustle (bustled from underneath), and you consider the removal of some of the layers of crinoline as @aliciab21: suggested, you likely will be fine.
Also — and I know I likely will be in the minority — likely a very small minority — when I say this, but, does it matter if you can’t dance as freely as you could in a regular cocktail-style dress? It’s your wedding, and you are the bride, and you will look smashing in your full ballgown! I don’t see anything wrong with your moving as slowly as you need to move, or taking up as much space as you need to occupy, even if that’s on the dance floor.
ETA: @Treejewel19: just posted a perfect example! 🙂 Of course, even her bustle is stunning!
You’re going to be the center of attention, and others will still be able to dance the night away while talking to and interacting with you.
Post # 10
@Treejewel19: Your dress is beautiful and the bustle worked out wonderfully. My dress is puffy tulle so i dont think i will ever be able to look like that… 🙁
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Okay, don’t panic. Are you intersted in finding a real wedding dress as a reception dress or just a white evening gown? There are so many bridal salons in the area that it will definitely be possible to find one. If you don’t want an evening gown, you can try to buy a sample from a bridal salon. They are usually in fine shape and you can probably get a discount, especially if you can find a sample sale going on.
Post # 12
Yes, definitely get a bustle/bussell, and would only take 1-2 hours to make it 🙂
Puffy trains are usually okay to be bustled. Talk to a local seamstress who is experienced with bridal gowns, they should be able to bustle it for you (usually $40-$60)
Post # 13
@missdream: Please post a pic of your dress for us!
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
They’re having a sample sale at Kleinfeld on february 5th from 3-7. You should try that
Post # 16
@MeiFrancis: I think I want an actual wedding dress, not just an evening gown. I really wish I would’ve though about getting a detachable train type of dress beforehand.