Post # 1
- Wedding: Old Victorian B&B/Restaurant & Gardens
So here is the back story: I have a very large extended family. Lots of relatives who I am not super close with but that are always at holiday dinners etc…
My step mom is planning my shower in my hometown (14 hours away from where I now live) and is planning on inviting all those female relatives (lots who are german mennonite I may add…) I am worried that there will be heads rolling if they get an invite to a shower but are not invited to the wedding… (we are having a small 85 ppl wedding on the other side of the country…) My step mom is fairly stubborn and sometimes has issues being tactful. Am I over-reacting in thinking that people will be offended or am I justified and if so, how do I approach her about it? Without those relatives there will not be very many people I would invite and she really wants to do this shower for me…
Post # 2
Only people who are invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower – so make sure she knows who is on the guest list and who isn’t and invites to the shower accordingly.
Post # 3
twinter91: Tell her people who are not invited to the wedding shall not be invited to the shower. End of discussion.
Your step-mom can take you out to dinner or have a small shower with a few ladies who are invited to the wedding if she wants to.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
twinter91: Tell her something along the lines of you are honoured that she is going to throw you a shower and love that she wants to make it into a big event, but that you do not feel that it is appropriate that someone who is not invited to the wedding is invited to the shower and that you need her to stick to the guest list.
Post # 5
It’s incredibly rude to invite people to a shower and not invite them to the wedding. If she invites them, you’d best figure out how to accomodate them at your wedding.