Post # 1
I love the idea of letting my bridesmaids chose their own black dresses.
I was thinking that perhaps I should give them some parameters, though, just to keep things a bit unified.
So far I have come up with the following: tea/knee length, no velvet, no sequins
What am a missing? Do you think if a few people are in satin the shininess of a few will look funny in pictures? Should I do all satin or no satin or am I being a crazy person?
In the interest of being super laid back for the bridesmaids, I think I’m managing to make only myself crazy.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!
Post # 3
I am actually super glad you brought this up. I too am doing this for my bridesmaids. Can’t wait to hear people’s suggestions!
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I love the idea of LBDs for the bridesmaids!!!
Personally, I’m a bit of a control freak (hey, at least I can admit it!) and I would agree that photos might look funny if some are satin and some aren’t. I’d say either they are all satin or none of them are. BUT, if you aren’t as neurotic as I am, then don’t worry about it.
Post # 5
I was thinking of doing the same thing! All are sating or none!
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
haha, glad to know I’m not the only crazy-controlling one!
Post # 7
I’m doing the same thing but allowing minimal beading. I would also say have them show you the dress before they buy it OR make sure they can return it if it doesn’t work out. I sent out a bunch of pics to my BMs showing them dresses that would work for the wedding. I think they appreciated that.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
Also maybe say no jersey. That can get kind of ‘eeeh.’
Post # 9
I had told my BMs the same thing – all I said was black, I didn’t even care if some were short and some floor length. But I think I’ve thrown them all for a loop with so much freedom!! I thought being able to choose what they want and how much they want to spend was the best way to go, but they all still seem to be wanting me to tell them more. Like they would be more comfortable if I just picked something and said “get this one” Who knew?! LOL
Post # 10
One of my best friends (and a total fashionista) suggeseted giving the bridesmaids a designer, color, and fabric to choose from. Because photographs accentuate differences in fabrics, I thought that was really important and never would have though of it!
Post # 11
First of all, it’s awesome that you are giving them so much choice. I have been a half dozen weddings and there are probably only two dresses that I can ever see re-wearing. In this economy, something like this allows them to wear something they already own or at least buy something that they can use again.
That said, there is a huge variety of black dresses out there and your girls know that you have some sort of vision for your wedding and they just want to make sure they pick something that fits with that and that you will think is pretty and they feel confident in. It’s a taller order than it seems a first. Just send a handful of links of dresses you like to help get them thinking.
Oh, and I would personally say all satin or no satin. I would specify whether lace is ok as well.
Post # 12
It depends on the overall look you are looking for. Different black fabrics photograph differently. If that bothers you, then pick one designer/fabric type. If it doesn’t, just concentrate on what you are most concerned about.
Post # 13
I’m doing the same exact thing Merriment! I gave all of my girls parameters also (knee length, shiny finish, no bling, had to fit with my “old Hollywood/modern glamor” feel, and I had to see it before they bought it). Unfortunately, the problem I’m running into is that they’re just pulling black dresses out of their closet and asking if they’re ok. I totally get trying to be frugal – but it’s ended up as more stress for me than anything.
As other bee’s have suggested to me – pick out a bunch of dresses that work with your look, and then let them choose from those. Trust me, it will save you TONS of stress! 🙂
Post # 14
I asked my girls to choose something black, knee-length and non-strapless. I will be providing a few accessories for them so they still stand out as bridesmaids and so there is some continuity.
Post # 15
I asked my ladies to choose a non-floor length black dress from JCrew. They ended up choosing different materials, and honestly, I didn’t notice the difference in the photos. They each had a totally different style (cap sleeves, tank straps, spaghetti straps, strapless) and they looked awesome.
Post # 16
A wedding we attended this summer let the bridesmaids choose their own black dresses and then tied them all together with the same colored sash. The dresses were different fabrics, but you can’t tell in the picture.