Post # 1
So I am getting mixed reviews on this. I have a 4 year old daughter, who’s bio-dad/donor, has never been involved in her life. So even before I met my fiancée, I said that my daughter would walk me down the isle. Some people think this is precious and some, not so much. In FI’s religion usually the brother of the groom walks the bride down. While I don’t want to nix their custom, it is very important to me to have my little A, to give me away. She has always known Fiance as daddy, so essentially, he is not only committing himself to me, but to her as well!!! So please let me know what you think. Do you think it will be too much to have little A, and his brother walk me down? Also, if you bees have any advice/ideas on how to incorporate her into the ceremony, I would love it!!!
Post # 3
I think it is so sweet to have her walk you down. My story is very similar to yours (it’s kinda creepy really lol), but my daughter was only 2 1/2 and I wasn’t sure how it would go. My older brother gave me away and my daughter was one of the flower girls!
Post # 4
You can have her as part of the unity candle lighting (3 candles light the large one) or the sand ceremony. He can also have him say vows to her of being there for her, caring for her, etc. I’ve seen it done, very nice
Post # 5
Nowadays tradition is old school. Dare to be different. This is you and your fiances day and it should be exactly what you want!MEANINGFUL. When its all said and done the party is a blur but the memories of the ceremony will live on for generations.
Post # 6
Ask you Fiance if it is important to him that his brother walks you down the isle. If he dosen’t mind then just have your daughter.
Post # 7
I think it’s so sweet to walk down the aisle with your daughter! My kiddos (from my previous marriage) will be 8 and 5 when Fiance and I get married next June, and they are going to walk down the aisle with me! After all, we’re forming a new family together! Everyone in my family thinks it’s perfect; my grandmother tears up every time she mentions it and my dad isn’t offended or anything like that. For us, it just doesn’t make sense to not do that. So my daughter (almost 8) will be my junior bridesmaid and my son (almost 5) will be the ring bearer, and we’re not having any one else in the wedding party.
However…I wonder if you’re getting mixed opinions because you’re saying your daughter is going to give you away? A 4 year old can’t “give you away” in the traditional sense. I am the one who gave birth to my kiddos, so I’m not theirs to give away! LOL! 🙂 Anyway, that’s the only reason–apart from your FI’s cultural tradition–that I could think anyone would raise an eyebrow. Hopefully your FI’s family will understand how important this is to you!
Post # 8
The only attendents we had was my 3 year old daughter and my 6 year old stepson. They walked down the aisle first but then my Dad walked me down behind them. I think you should have just your daughter, and everyone will love it!