(Closed) Little known planning advice?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 4
5474 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Being laid back.  It’s about the only thing that has quelled any potential drama for me.  My Future Mother-In-Law, with whom I get along quite well, has been very helpful throughout the entire process.  Of course, this comes with a cost 🙂  She is opinionated.  She wants things a certain way.  Now, when it is something I don’t have an opinion about, well we go with what she prefers.  However, if it’s something he & I really really want- we stick to our guns.  We both wanted dark green as our main color.  She said it’s not a summer color.  We still want it, so we said so, and it’s (mostly) been dropped.

Also, being laid back about bridesmaids.  I have 8, which admittedly is a bit rediculous.  Some of them have offered to help with things, others have not.  It’s ok.  We all have lives.  I try to be laid back about it.  I ask for help if I need it (hello- stuffing 190 invitations!!) and sure, they help if/when they can.  I have made it a point to make sure I cherish each and every one of their friendships above all else.  They are my friends, not wedding props.  By valuing their friendships, I have been able to avoid becoming demanding or overbearing.  It’s been a saving grace for sure 🙂

I’m a laid back person to begin with, so that definitely helps.  I don’t get into a twist about things.  If it really matters to Fiance or myself, well I stand up and say “this is what I want” and let the rest go.

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