Post # 1
Hey ladies already in the throes of planning and especially those that have already married-
Do you have any advice that is otherwise not really discussed that often? Advice for anyone just beginning to plan or even well into planning that might be a “whoa” moment?
Eg. A friend of mine told me to make a list of expenses I wouldn’t have otherwise thought of until I had to pay for them (tipping the staff, marraige certificate costs, etc). It totalled thousands alone! But now it’s present in my mind so I can keep the costs for everything in budget.
So ladies- what is your secretely found advice?
Post # 3
Is everyone at work? C’mon ladies!
Post # 4
Being laid back. It’s about the only thing that has quelled any potential drama for me. My Future Mother-In-Law, with whom I get along quite well, has been very helpful throughout the entire process. Of course, this comes with a cost 🙂 She is opinionated. She wants things a certain way. Now, when it is something I don’t have an opinion about, well we go with what she prefers. However, if it’s something he & I really really want- we stick to our guns. We both wanted dark green as our main color. She said it’s not a summer color. We still want it, so we said so, and it’s (mostly) been dropped.
Also, being laid back about bridesmaids. I have 8, which admittedly is a bit rediculous. Some of them have offered to help with things, others have not. It’s ok. We all have lives. I try to be laid back about it. I ask for help if I need it (hello- stuffing 190 invitations!!) and sure, they help if/when they can. I have made it a point to make sure I cherish each and every one of their friendships above all else. They are my friends, not wedding props. By valuing their friendships, I have been able to avoid becoming demanding or overbearing. It’s been a saving grace for sure 🙂
I’m a laid back person to begin with, so that definitely helps. I don’t get into a twist about things. If it really matters to Fiance or myself, well I stand up and say “this is what I want” and let the rest go.