- princess poolau
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
So I’ve singlehandedly screwed up my engagement and I feel absolutely terrible about how impatient I have been.
The boy and I have been together 5 years and 2 months now. We first started looking at rings 1 1/2 years ago, basically me dragging the boy to the windows of jewelry stores and oohing and ahhing over everything. Over the past year or so, we managed to narrow down stones and settings that we both liked and so had an idea what THE RING would look like.
Anyhow, fast forward to now and a number of our friends have gotten married or are engaged and I felt miserable. I would often cry at the thought of them being married/engaged and not us. Of course I was happy for them, but I just thought that it’s our turn next. I have always known that money was an issue. We bought a house together this time last year, and only 6 months ago, the boy had to pay a one-off membership fee to join an exclusive golf club (boy’s family has a long history at the golf club, and memberships do not just come up- often people without family history at the club wait 30 years for their membership, so boy had to take it immediately when it came along). So yes, I did understand that our finances meant that it was difficult to for him to buy me a ring.
So earlier this week, I came up with a brilliant plan. That we get me my would-be wedding band instead. And then he could get me my ‘real’ engagement ring at the time of the wedding. This made sense because I am a special needs teacher and so I have to be very hands on day-to-day, and it means that he could pay for the other things that he needed to at this moment. So the wedding band would be more practical to wear, and it also allowed me to tell people (in particular close family) that we were finally engaged (lots of family pressure). He seemed very happy that I understood his situation and didn’t outright promise me that we’d go ring shopping this weekend even when I suggested it. With this, I got annoyed. I was annoyed that he didn’t want to do something that was so practical, affordable and special (wedding band as engagement ring, and vice versa). The next minute, he whipped out the receipt for my ring!!! I was shocked. He had already ordered the ring and just was waiting for his paycheck at the end of this month to then pick up the ring. OH MY GOODNESS. Talk about massive shame.
Anyway, I decided that I wanted to see my ring (its absolutely beautiful and its my dream ring!!!) and try it on (lucky I did because it was two times too big for me!) But needless to say, I have ruined what could have been an amazing surprise. =( I have no one to blame but myself. Now, I am waiting for the boy to ‘present’ me with the ring and am VERY VERY VERY excited for the next few weeks. Maybe I’ll get a surprise ‘proposal’???
Anyone else out there who has been impatient and feels terrible about it?