Post # 1
I’m super annoyed jsut now because I found out that my Maid/Matron of Honor finally bought her dress – that part is great, however she bought it TWO SIZES SMALLER than what she currently wears!!! She is a large girl, beautiful just as she is imo. I understand the need to want to look your best, but this has just added and additional layer of stress into my life that I do not need right now. We have just over 3 months to the wedding and she thinks she can lose 40 lbs….OMG. We are going right into the holidays, I dont’ even know what she is thinking. I want to be supportive, but like I said, I don’t need the additional stress. On top of this she has a pretty poor history of dieting and I do not need to be anyones but my own cheerleader right now. I told her I will basically cut her from the party if she does not fit into the dress, taken in or let out – I don’t care, she just better fit in it!
Serioulsy, all you BMs that may be on this site- but a dress that effin’ fits you right now! Brides have enough on their to-do list without having to worry that you will screw up their bridal party! Ok, end of my little rant.
Post # 3
I’m sure she can always get it altered : ) just as long as she’s paying for it lol don’t stress about it
Post # 4
She might be able to get it altered but taking a dress out with out additional fabric is hard to do… i shocked the shop let her order a dress 2 sizes smaller…i was just measured for a wedding i’m in in may and i tried one one size it was falling off me, so she measured me and i fell right into the smaller size *and i’m just hoping i’m still that size in may!!! 🙂
Post # 5
It’ll all work out. Don’t worry, you’re not alone. I feel your frustration!
Post # 6
@SugerPlum: One of my BMs lives in Japan, so she didn’t have the option of trying on dresses with the other girls. She just sent me her measurements, and I called the store. It turned out, though, that although her hips and bust are small enough for a size 8, her waist called for a size 14. The store was so confused by the measurements that they asked me to reconfirm with my friend that those were the right ones. My Bridesmaid or Best Man later told me yes, the measurements are correct, and that she was just chubby around the middle. She insisted that I order her a size 8, even though the store and I recommended a 10 or 12. She said she would just work to lose the weight.
This wouldn’t actually be a problem, except that she lives in Japan. I neither can afford to ship the dress to her nor do I trust the USPS enough not to lose the package, so my friend won’t even get to try on the dress until she gets here… the Tuesday afternoon before the wedding. I’m just praying it fits.
Post # 7
It seems a little ambitious given the time year… but hopefully it will all work out! Do you think the dress is one that could be reordered in case of emergency?
I’m going to be in my SIL’s wedding this summer and I’ll be ~2mos post-partum… I went through the hassle of exchanging my dress for a new one two sizes up just to avoid any problems. Apparently I’m not much of a risk-taker.
Post # 8
My Maid/Matron of Honor ordered 1 size down from what she needed, but she crash dieted and it fit her. I wouldn’t have done that, but that’s just me. 🙂 I completely understand your frustration though!!
Post # 9
@Porkchop: Definitely at her cost!
@CTbride2010: I know, I’m surprised too because they had her measurements/size from when we first went into the shop. But I guess, what do they care? They may end up selling her two dresses!
@yellowshoe: Thanks 🙂
@GreenEyedMoon: LOL I have one out of the country Bridesmaid or Best Man too! I ordered hers with the measurement she sent me, but she’s on the smaller side, so I’m not too worried about hers.
@LAGS: I don’t even think it’s a little ambitious, it’s a lot ambitious! Bless her heart for trying, but I don’t need the extra worry.
Post # 10
@rubyred605: Yeah, one size down, crash diet, that I can see, but forty lbs? I’m just going to keep my fingers crossed!
Post # 11
WOW ! THE SAME THING JUST HAPPEN TO ME W/ ONE OF MY BM’S .. I CALLED HER YESTERDAY TO ASK HER WHAT SHE HAD TO EAT FOR LUNCH AND IF SHE WENT TO THE GYM AT ALL THIS WEEK…. SUPER STRESSED OUT AND THE DRESS MY GIRLS ARE WEARING HAVE NO ROOM FOR FORGIVENESS… WE WILL SEE APRIL 14
GOOD LUCK TO YOU HOPE ALL TURNS OUT FINE
Post # 12
I’m a little bit concerned about this with one of mine, as well. She tried on the store sample (which I’m now considering may have been somewhat stretched out), and insisted that her dress should be ordered in that size. It’s not a HUGE difference size wise — and she’s got plenty of bridesmaid experience and really wants to avoid major alterations, which I’m sure “size charts” are designed to generate. But neither of us are gonna be happy if she has to order a new dress. =/ I should find out if it works for her in about two weeks…
Post # 13
Did you get your dresses from David’s Bridal?
Honestly, I wasn’t at all impressed with their wedding dresses and the service I received shopping for one, but they were stellar when it came to Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. One of my bridesmaids lost 2 dress sizes and they exchanged her dress a couple days before the wedding (and a couple months after she’d picked up and paid for the dress) no problem. I was freaked out when my Bridesmaid or Best Man told me her dress didn’t fit anymore, but DB took care of everything and it went down about as stress free as you can get.
Post # 14
I understand I was a Maid/Matron of Honor in my BFF wedding. Her other Bridesmaid or Best Man is a bigger girl and decided to get a dress a size smaller. The day of the wedding after the ceremony we get into the limo and ****RIP***. I said to her why didn’t you get a bigger size. Her response was if she did she would need alterations..I said then you should have gotten alterations like everyone else, now you got a ripped dress.
Some people just don’t think…I really hope she can fit that dress. I’m sorry you have to go through this.
Post # 15
Two sizes isn’t 40 lbs. Probably more like 20. She possibly could lose that.
Post # 16
I am afraid I’m about to have the same exact issue with my Maid/Matron of Honor. She keeps talking about how she’s going to lose all this weight before the wedding, and how she wants to order the dress at least two sizes smaller.
It’s definitely not something I feel like worrying about either. Yeesh.