- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I am planning my wedding on an okay budget… 7000 from dress to honeymoon + catering is being done by Future In-Laws.
My Future In-Laws have a very conservative, well off family. I have been to weddings of theirs where I know since I am planning myself, cost probably closer to 20-50 Gs! I dont want more money, I just want to use the money I have to work really effecently. My FH just wants to get married, and not worry, or just get it done. He has NEVER worked with a budget on anything before we got together. My family prides themselves on good deals. i am DIYing on somethings I know will be cheaper but look nice, like RSVP cards and cenerpieces (FILs own a flower farm company) He just wants me to do it now, stop stressing or ask ppl who dont know how to DIY to do them “real quick”. I want to take my time, on my timeline, keep control so I just have to do it once and save my sanity.
He also doesnt see the point in certain things like escort cards and Save-The-Date Cards. For Save-The-Date Cards he thinks the invites are enough even though he has a HUGE family, and I have a lot of Out of Town family. He thinks with escort cards we should either just type their names onto cards, or not do them at all. Its too much work he says and they will find tables to sit at. GRRR!! All I was talking about was typing them out in the paper and having a friend who does this sort of thing for a living emboss a little detail for free. Only thing stressing me about it is HE hasnt given me a final guest list and I used the escort cards and invites as a example of why I need it.
Lastly, when ever I am in the middle of something he asks his mom if she could just finish it for me to “help”. Like printing things out (when I still need to perfect it, and once I do it will take me 5 min to print) or tell her the wrong details. Now, its nice that she is fine with doing it, but she is CRAZY busy, and gets offended if I change the plan back to me doing it when I need something by a certain time and she wont be able to, even though it would save us both time and stresss.
I would just do it all and ignore him on these obviously not important details to him, but we have 2 small kids and I have to have room and time I get them done. Its not that he doesnt want to watch them, he just doesnt think I should be using so much energy into doing it. He says they are stressing me out too much, when in reality HE is the one stressing me!!
Thank you for listening I just need to get it out of my mind before I blow up at him (again)