(Closed) Live at home or move out?

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Stay Put.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would move out and experience some independence before you move in with your boyfriend.  The only reason to stay is if you need the money.  E.g., if you are paying off debt such as a student loan I would stay at your parents’ and try to pay it down.  If you would not be able to save anything at all then I would also think twice about it.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Actually, I would do the math on gas vs. rent savings before you decide. I know it seems absurd that they could ever compare, but the difference may not be nearly what you assume it would be compared to rent savings.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@love2bfit:  I say move out in 3 months, but start hanging out on campus after work. That way you have more friends, and you can start hanging out at their places. If you’re still miserable then move out so that the end of your one year lease will match up with when your Boyfriend or Best Friend wants to get an apartment.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

When you are comparing cost of gas vs. rent, be sure to include heat, electric, tv, internet, etc.  Unless you drive a hummer, its prob. a LOT cheaper to stay at home.

Honestly – if you are in such a financial state that you have student loans and are not paying them off, then I suggest staying at home until you get to a point where you are well on your pay to pay them off.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

My oldest sister moved back home after College for a few years to save for a down payment and I don’t know how she possibly did it for that long. We have a great family, but I don’t think it’s worth the savings to give up so much privacy and have to follow so many rules, esp as an adult. I mean it’s one thing if you don’t have the money to move out, but if you do I think that’s what you should do.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

My parents had the same rules and I stayed put knowing that it wasn’t forever and I was saying money towards my home. I moved home after college and lived there for 3 yrs until we bought our house which was only months before we got married. Just think of your goals and where you want to be and figure out if it’s possible if you move out and start paying rent.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

If you can swing it, move out!  It will be great to be on your own for a bit before you and your Boyfriend or Best Friend start cohabitating.  Why wait to start living your own life?  PErsonally I am so happy I got to live independently and build my own life  a while before my husband and I lived together.  Can find someone who has a place where you can rent a room cheaply?

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I moved back in with my mom when i went back to school a few years ago (I think I was 26 when I moved back in). I was able to save almost 20,000 dollars not paying rent which we used to buy our first home in September. I would say stay at home and sock that money away, you will be SO GLAD you have it. But it’s true, it makes sense to do the math before makng a decision. Also I’m stumped on why you are unable to socialize or make friends living far away. There seems to be no reason you can’t hang around campus/the surrounding area after classes etc to get coffee or happy hour with people you know, and drive home after? It may be a bit further than you’d like but its a choice you make if you want to socialize.

Also wanting to sleep in the same bed as your boyfriend is definitely not a reason to start paying rent. I know it sucks, my mom has never let me have boys spend the night even at her house, but it just is what it is.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@love2bfit:  I’m crossing fingers for you!  Good luck with grad school!

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