Liven Up Your Sex Life???

posted 4 months ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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221 posts
Helper bee

Have you and your fiance discussed fantasies before? I know it can be hard to open up about that type of thing, but that is a really good place to start. Have you mentioned to him that you want to spice things up? Because it’ll be hard if you’re trying to spice things up and he is totally oblivious haha. Personally I found that incorporating toys helps when things start feeling monotonous, but that is definitely something that requires a lot of clear communication in the bedroom. Good luck OP 🙂 

Post # 3
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3014 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Toys, fantasies, tantra, role playing, “public sex” and combinations of all of the above.

There’s also- porn, swinging, poly, and kink you could explore.

Post # 4
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505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Do you ever get yourself lingerie? FI and I had a dry spell for while, but then I started collecting sexy things to wear and that helped a lot. I love when he buys lingerie, too, because i open the boxes and he buys sexier things that occasionally make me blush because there’s nothing there 😂

Post # 5
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842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My FI and I went to an adult store together and it was a lot of fun to look at a bunch of different toys and outfits to see what interested both of us. I really recommend that to get ideas, but it’s important that you and your SO are comfortable communicating about sex first–otherwise it’d probably be kind of overwhelming. 

Post # 6
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’d start by communicating about sex first. Do you two talk regularly about your sexual wants and needs? If you are intersted in a certain “flavour” of sexuality there are always good books on the subject. I think it’s also important to discuss sex outside of the bedroom, so that sort of discussion is not always in the heat of the moment. You might be able to get some clarity on how to spice things up that way. 

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