Post # 1
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Bee Keeper
I hesitated writing this post. I know in the grand scheme of things, this is not that big of a deal and there are much worse problems in the world.
But, I need a short vent session.
I researched and met with many different florists before deciding on the one I felt most comfortable with. The flowers are a very important component for me.
Today we had scheduled a meeting for me to look at a mock up of the centerpieces. I walked in, and it was unfinished, and mostly green. She knew I wanted full bloomed flowers everywhere with very little filler. I tensed up and said that this is not what we discussed. She told me the Amaryllus hadn’t opened yet and some flowers which will be included aren’t yet in season, so she thought we could basically talk about what i want and experiment a bit together. I had already explained to her in several meetings exactly what I wanted, and I wanted a mock-up to approve it and make sure we were on the same page. So this was ridiculous to me. I was very clear with her. However, things got better after she pulled flowers from her shop and put something together in front of me that is pretty close to what it will be. It looked nice and we will go over everything again 3 weeks before the wedding just to be extra thorough.
…I think she probably didn’t realize what my expectations were for the meeting, and I do believe she will pull out all the stops on my wedding day. I’ve seen pics of her work and heard from many people at our venue that she is amazing.
However, after dealing with a TON of other stressors from work and other wedding-related things, I just did not need to walk in there and see a circular pile of green.
For the past 4 days I’ve been getting severe dizzy spells after feeling my face get very very hot. I drink orange juice and sit down or lie down and it gets a bit better..but I think my stress all around is manifesting itself this way physically. I got a dizzy spell at the florist’s shop.
I’m genuinely happy and thankful right now…but I guess there has been a lot weighing on my shoulders lately…
Ok, vent over. I’m trying to breathe slowly like my mom always tells me. 🙂
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
@Evie19: Aww, I’m sorry you are so stressed out. I had a crazy florist, so I understand your frustrations. Good of you to keep your composure and work through the meeting with your florist. It sounds like she did a good job of accommodating you in the moment and it is tough when flowers aren’t in season. Great that you’ll have a follow-up meeting 3 weeks before the wedding. That ought to do the trick just fine.
In the meantime, I’m a little worried for you and those dizzy spells. Think it is worth a trip to the doctor just to be safe? Don’t want to frighten you or get all motherly LOL but trying to look out for you. Best wishes and keep breathing… 🙂
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
@Cornflakegirl: Thanks for the sweet post. 🙂 The out of season thing really wasnt an excuse cause that was just one flower- the rest could have been placed. sigh. i need to get over it.
Could there be another reason for the dizzy spells? They seem to happen when Im feelng stressed so I just assumed that was the cause…Its quite unnerving.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
Oh honey, please take care of yourself! Maybe find an outlet to release that stress so it doesn’t have such horrible (and scary) manifestations?
There was a time in grad school when I was working for a not-so-nice person and there were times when I’d just drop and do 50 crunches or leave and walk the longest hallway in the building four times.
Is there a way for you to do something like that? Just short, little bursts of physical activity might release some tension.
A guided meditation CD (just 10-15 minutes) might also help.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
I hope you’re feeling better.
I realize that you expected to see a finished mockup, but flowers can be finicky, non? Since they’re not in season just yet, and she was able to put something together right in front of you that resembled what you ultimately want, that’s a good sign of her skill.
It looks like you’ve got 2 months to go. Good luck!
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
@mink: I am actually very active during the day- a lot of speed walking.
But…I think I need to add yoga in the mix. You’re right, I need to find some “time-out” activities to decompress.
I’m leaving for the States in 2 weeks. When I return, I’ll have 3 weeks left for the wedding with a gazillion things to do. So a LOT is on my plate right now, on top of getting work stuff in order before I leave. It’s just a tense time…
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
@lauraq123: The out of season thing wasn’t an excuse to be honest- because that was only one flower. I had been so clear about what I’d like that meeting to be about and she just didn’t take it seriously. I know it’s not the biggest deal in the world but it was just the straw that broke the camels back.
Post # 9
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Blushing bee
ummm~~~ but dizzy spells are the first symptom I get when I am pregnant!
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
Flowers were so important to me too, and it took me forever to decide on a florist that did amazing work at my price point. I can understand how unnerving it would be to see a pile of green when you expected a lovely mock-up of what you were expecting. The fact that she did pull somethingsimilar together for you to see should help to ease your mind. I can’t tell you how many times I got stressed out at my vendors only to have them pull thru with amazing results on my wedding day. I have no doubts that your florist will do the same.
I get dizzy spells too when I’m ultra stressed out. I found that laying off the caffeine, deep breathing and yoga helped me to remain in control- also making sure I was getting enough calories and keeping my blood sugar from dropping too low during the day. Keep a little snack on hand with you and try to eat it if you feel yourself getting dizzy. I hope you feel better! Everything will turn out!
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
@Christine4RN: 😉 Im pretty sure im not pregnant. Just had my period…but it did cross my mind for a second!!
Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
@Eight6Eleven: Thanks for the pep talk! 🙂
Now that you mention it, I’ve been drinking more caffeine lately (which I usually don’t) and so maybe I should cut that off…
You’re probably right about blood sugar as well because orange juice makes me feel a bit better.
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
I would make a doc appt just to make sure everything 100% ok.
If you feel it’s coming from stress, make sure you drink plenty of water and take time-outs from wedding planning/wedding talk/wedding anything. I know it’s hard but you need some personal space away from wedding-world to regroup.
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
@PinkPinstripes: It’s funny because I totally commented on a post about wedding advice today preaching that we all need to take breaks from wedding details and remember what’s really important…lol. sigh.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
::hugs:: I’m so sorry that you’re stressed out. 🙁 Good for you for sticking to your guns during that meeting though! I’m sure she will be amazing but you were clear about your expectations and she didn’t provide initially. Silly vendors.
Will you get a chance to have a breather while you’re in the states? A day off from all things wedding to get away and do something fun?
Post # 16
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Blushing bee
Sorry about the florist…at least you were able to come to a compromise and work it out!
It could be blood sugar…but it could also be your blood pressure. Either way I would go get checked so that you know for sure which it is.
