- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2018
Well, the bride has struck again and we’ll be at three weeks of engagement tomorrow, at this rate I’ll have committed suicide by the time the wedding happens.
Background on this is complex and crazy, but in a nutshell, I’m very close with the Bride and Groom, she’s my best friend and he and I went to school together…SO, they’ve been dating for 2 and a half years, while they’re falling in love, my mother falls terribly ill with a mysterious disease that left her totally weak and unable to be home alone. So, a month ago we figure out what’s wrong with my mother, she gets treatment, she’s on the upswing, but it’s slow going because she’s been sick so long. Her regular caregiver wants to go on vacation, the bride offers to cover his shifts, everyobody wins since they need the money, right? WRONG!
Meanwhile, after these plans were made, her boyfriend at the time approaches me to help him pick out an engagement ring, we make plans, he’s going to put it on layaway, I offer to pay up front if he pays me back, which he agrees to in writing, I’m nobody’s fool, no biggie since it wasn’t a bank breaker by any means and having to wait for something like that is hard.
So, they get engaged! Everyone is happy, we start getting into wedding mode…fun stuff…she lays the, “It’s my day!” line on a couple of people who are behaving a little poorly, I stay safely in the sidelines…the bride tells me she knows that I helped the groom with the $, she says thanks and that they’ll pay me back. Great stuff.
Meanwhile, my husband has to have reconstructive shoulder surgery, I have my hands full since he can only use one…my father is totally overwhelmed between my mother’s recovery and his aging mother in the final stages of parkinsons living in his home. I work with my father and brother at the same firm, so we’ve been holding each other together through all of this, after all, we’re family.
So, I call my Mom on the way to work, an everyday thing, to hear about how she’s doing and what her plans are, she tells me the bride called in sick…my father is going to have to try and work from home AND the bride requested a pay advance last week, so she’s been paid for a day she’s not going to work….suddenly I recall the groom telling me he had today off and was thinking about visiting my husband, which I thought was nice.
I call her, to see how she is, she sounds fine, says she’s found a doctor that takes payments and is going this morning since she’s got a fever and a runny nose….I ask where the groom is, she tells me he’s off work today and the line gets real quiet…..I’m in no mood to start a fight, maybe she is sick, but that’s awfully suspicious, and my father saw her yesterday, she was sound as a pound health wise…
Ladies, do I have a legitimate reason to feel angry on this one, or is this an innocent occurence that bother me more since I’m dealing with so much?