(Closed) Living 4 hours away from family and friends, and trying to plan a wedding….

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My family is 1500 miles away from where I live and my friends are all over the planet, everywhere but here.  I actually prefer it, though!  Nobody can try to be too overbearing and Fiance and I get to make all the decisions.  The wedding is completely ours  =o)

Post # 18
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@agraham85:  Omg! I’m going to be in the same situation. lol. I’ll be 5 hours away from my family and friends. New city and won’t know anyone. We’re moving in Janurary and getting married Oct 2013. Before I leave I’m going to go dress shopping so my mom and friends can experience it with me and do as much as I can before moving day. I know we’ll be coming back a lot to visit my family so I just figured I’ll schedule anything wedding related on my visits. Other than that, I’ll be doing all my DIY by myself. We’re having a destinatoin wedding as well. 2 hours 45 mins from my fam and friends and 10 hours from us, since we’ll be living the farthest. Fiance and I travel to where we’re having our wedding quite often because we’re doing everything local there, cake tasting, winery, hair, make up… before we move, 7 hour difference between drives. lol. As long as your Fiance is helping you out and involved you should be fine, but I understand the experience of poanning a wedding with friends and family, I’ll be missing out too. My Fiance is very involved in our wedding planning, a little too much. lol. But I’m glad he helps a lot. 

Post # 20
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I planned my Destination Wedding while overseas and had a 9 hour time difference.  All our family is in the U.S. and we didn’t have any problems….we even got compliments for having such a nice wedding w/o the use of cell phones….we just used an internet phone.

It was a lot of work….people waiting until the very last minute to get their attire and then some impt. family members waiting until the last minute to make reservations.  We just decided there was nothing we could do about getting them to make decisions and didn’t stress over it.

In our defense, we did arrive a week ahead of time to finish purchasing wedding items and doing last minute things….but it worked out perfectly.

Post # 21
425 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@agraham85: I am going through a very similar situation. Fiance and I moved 4 hours away for his job about 4 years ago. We have been planning for a little over a year now and I felt very disconnected as well. Instead of feeling bad I decided to make the extra effort and its helped alot. You can order from anymore or atleast shop from anywhere so maybe take a trip down to see her and shop.

Even though our wedding will be in VT (where we live now), I have been going to NJ to see my family and friends and do some planning there. With the internet and everything I bring all my stuff to them and we talk, hang out, and plan. Its not the same as living near each other but try to make the best of it. 🙂

Post # 22
31 posts
  • Wedding: February 2013

We live in Perth, Australia, and we’re planning our wedding for Auckland, New Zealand where all our family and friends live.  I’ve definitely had my moments finding it hard!  I’m lucky my Maid/Matron of Honor is amazing and takes care of everything for me, but I do wish it was easy just to catch up 🙁  Its about 7hrs flight to NZ and not cheap, we were there in January to organise some stuff and we won’t be back until 10 days before the wedding this coming February.

I am lucky I’ve made a couple of good friends here in Perth that are really helping me out by coming to help me choose a dress, and organising a hens night here and things, and basically listening to be and getting excited about wedding stuff.  But sometimes I wish I was back home with my family and bridesmaids

Post # 23
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I just posted about the SAME thing! My mom’s 2.5 hours away, my sister (and MOH) is 5 hours away, my FH is 15 hours away, and my bridesmaids are about 20 hours away! It’s INSANE! They do what they can, but there’s really nothing that can happen without them actually BEING here. It’s sad.
What helps is I look forward to the fact that everybody I love will be in one town for an entire weekend. It makes me immensely happy, and all this hell that I’m going through worth it.

I hope things get better for you!  

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