(Closed) Living Arrangements with SO?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Are you/would you consider the following living arrangements with SO?
    Rent an apartment : (60 votes)
    45 %
    Buy a home : (53 votes)
    40 %
    Live seperately : (21 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Rent. Personally, I REALLY don’t want a mortgage without at LEAST a contract for the venue signed (preferably married, though Fiance and I did consider buying a few months ago). I can only imagine breaking up with a mortgage – nightmare!

    ETA – if you do decide to purchase a home, maybe only have one of your names on the mortgage.

    Post # 4
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    6248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    I refused to move in with SO until he made a commitment to me.  We lived separately.

    Post # 5
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    3626 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @MapleMoose:  Fiance and I lived together before we were engaged because 1) we knew we were going to get engaged (but weren’t in a rush because we were freshly out of college) 2) it did make sense financially – but renting together is not much of a commitment 3) we wanted to!

    Post # 6
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    726 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I just couldn’t sign a mortgage with someone I wasn’t married to or at least about to be married to. 

    Post # 7
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    211 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Fiance and I already own a home together, just not married yet. Honestly, owning a home together is pretty much being married. Without the paper.

    Post # 8
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    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    We considered buying a home a while back, before we got engaged. I was a bit uneasy about it, but if we had gotten the opportunity I would have done it.

    Post # 9
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    80 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2013 - Home

    We are going to rent initially and buy after the wedding.

    Post # 10
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    14496 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’d do whatever made financial sense to us.  In this case it sounds like purchasing instead of renting. 

    Post # 11
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    2949 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We are planning on renting a flat after we get engaged.

    Post # 12
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    1212 posts
    Bumble bee

    Rent! I don’t care if it’s cheaper im not buying a place with a guy until there’s a pair of rings on my finger and the marriage contract is signed.

    Post # 13
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    443 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @MrsGolden2Bee:  This

    SO and I are currently renting together… Where we stay, it’s actually way cheaper to rent than to buy (Crazy, i know!).

    We’ll probably be renting for quite a while longer unless something crazy happens and the prices of property drops drastically…

    Post # 14
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    879 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We are renting.  But renting here is half the price of a mortgage.

    We pay $960 a month on rent for our 3 bedroom house.  That same house a mortgage would be around $3000 a month. Which is almost my entire monthly wage after tax.

    Post # 15
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    53 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    We’re looking for a house to buy because a 1 bdrm here is at lease 1000/month but if you dont want to live in a dump you have to go 1500.

    SO much cheaper to buy and we’ve been together for 7 years living together for 2. So it’s not such a big deal as far as relationship goes

    Post # 16
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    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Wanting to buy a house was one of the things that pushed Fiance to propose. I don’t feel comfortable buying a property if we’re not married. We already live together and rent but plan to buy next year after the wedding.

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