(Closed) Living in FBIL’s House?

posted 10 years ago in Home
Post # 3
6571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I agree, doing business with family isn’t usually the best idea. Especially if it’s more expensive then you’d like, it kind of defeats the point of trying to get that family discount.

My brother and SIL rented from my grandma, but my aunt was dealing with it. Long story short, they no longer speak to my aunt.

Post # 5
3525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think depending on the family doing “business” with family is OK. I’m fine doing that with my family or my husband’s. But I know not many families can say the same.

However, you said you might have to deal with EX Future Sister In Law. In that case I will say a big fat N O.

Post # 6
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Personally, seeing that Future Brother-In-Law is recently divorced and you would also be dealing with his ex, I would say STAY AWAY! Even if things are civil now, you never know if they might turn and you will become an unwilling pawn. 

Try to keep things as uncomplicated as possible. Find a place in your target neighborhood, in your target price range and if the water-heater explodes at 2 am, you’re calling a stranger instead of your Future Brother-In-Law. Trust me on this one!

Post # 8
3798 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We are on the other side of the fence with our living situation. Fiance and I allowed his cousin to move in LAST YEAR, pay cheap rent, and get on his feet after graduation. It’s been a year and he is still with us, although we thought it would be a less than 6 month thing, he is still with us and things are starting to get frustrating.

I wouldn’t do it, and if I could go back to last summer, I would have said no and never went down this road. As a young couple, you need your space and your own home….things with family get ugly because it’s family and boundaries get crossed. However…if you have to stay with him because it is the best financial decision right now, do yourself a favor and sit down together and lay out some ground rules/boundaries from the get go. We did not do this and now we are having some trouble. Situations like this can work…you just have to be clear with each other from the beginning. Don’t wait until a year later when things get heated to try to fix any problems that could have been avoided from the start (such as guests staying, helping with chores, etc.).

Post # 9
2441 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I say don’t do it.  Yes it is affordable for a house that size, but you don’t need/want a house that size.  It is on the high end of what you can afford.  That doesn’t help you out.  That helps Future Brother-In-Law out.  It adds time to your and FIs commute.  If Fiance drives that is more $ in gas as well as time.  That does not help you out either.  There are other places that have what you need for less.  Your goal is to save $ for your wedding. Moving into FBILs house isn’t really going to help you reach that goal.  Is it more important to you to help Future Brother-In-Law out or help yourselves?

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