(Closed) Living in house that in-laws own…with elderly aunt who lives in the same house

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Why doesn’t he move in with you? Does he plan to fix up the house before you guys move in? I wouldn’t move in unless that kitchen was rehabbed lol but that’s just my opinion! The Aunt will be living with you or in a total seperate apt.?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Would you have free rent or cheaper rent? If so, it may be good if you’re looking into saving up to buy your own house. However, its best to live aways from your family if you’re in an early marriage. If you’re close to the family, it can be great, but it may be awkward being around family all the time, especially if you want alone time & they come over often. I mean, living next door to someone makes you tend to visit much more often. Or is it just the aunt living there? I read it thinking his parents are in one of the apartments…

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Living in a family owned house has its ups & downs. If things broke, technically the landlord is responsible to fix it. So his parents would have to get repairs done, which if they’re on top of it, that’s awesome! However, if they’re not, that can get ugly & resentful.

Is your rent cheaper or more expensive than his? Either way, it cuts your rent down because you only pay 1 rent instead of 2.

I’ve heard that the “your place” is because you’ve lived there, he doesn’t feel like its his home but he just lives there with you instead of you living there together. I know it makes no sense, yet I completely understand it. Maybe if you offer that he could help redecorate he would feel like your place would be more like home?

As far as space goes, is his house too small or is it just the kitchen? Which house has more room? Closer to work places?

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You guys need to compromise together, but my vote would be your place. You can say right back that his place is his place (I’m not saying to argue, but to make the point that either way one of you is moving into the other’s house).

How long have they been promising the dryer? If its been months, & they don’t follow thru, than thats something to be wary of. Sometimes it CAN work to your advantage if you want to buy something & they agree to it, you can take it out of rent. But that’s only if they agree to it. My old landlord promised me the cabinet door within a month of us moving in. I lived there almost 3 years & never got it back. If he was my relative, oh I would be so resentful of that while living there. I mean, 3 years our kitchen had 1 missing cabinet door the entire time I lived there!! However, when our dishwasher broke he replaced it the next day with a brand new one & I thought he was awesome. This may just be a side thing, but it can be tricky to have parents as landlords, especially inlaws.

It looks like your place is cheaper & bigger. Moreso the more space is going to be important. You are going to be combining everything you own & if you can’t fit it, you’re gonna have to either store it or sell it. Usually a bigger place is better & it sounds like its in better condition & better upkeep.

 

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