Post # 1
I will soon be an official military wife starting next week and I would love if I could get some advice from you seasoned professionals. My husband and I have been long distance our entire relationship and now marriage, and unfortunately his next duty station doesn’t have available on-post housing for us. I run my own business so I will be staying busy but wanted to know what I can do to be involved with on-post life without actually being able to live on-post?
Post # 3
I’ve never lived on base, but I can say without a doubt living off base is better (at least for us!). Your husband spends a lot of time at work- it’s nice to be able to go home and just be a normal person. Sometimes I pick my husband up from work and will want to stop at the commissary- he can’t wait to get out of there and head home. When he’s in uniform or near base he is military mode- at home he’s just a civilian and can relax.
As for staying connected, I know a lot of spouses who get together. Your husband will have friends at work, usually at some point someone invites someone else over and connections happen.
You can also become involved by volunteering. I don’t know what branch you’re associated with, we have the Navy Marine Corp Relief Society- they are always looking for volunteers. There are tons of places to volunteer and a lot of spouses fill the volunteer slots.
You also may be suprised- if you’re near a semi-large base I can almost guarantee a few of your neighbors will be military. When we bought our condo we were suprised to see there were 4-5 military families living here. I have a friend who lives in an apartment building- 70 percent of the occupants are military. Sometimes it’s hard to get away from 🙂
Post # 4
Ok, that’s great to hear. I figure we’d want our time to just be us, but I also didn’t want to feel more isolated than I already will feel moving away from my entire family and life out here. Thanks for the tips on volunteering, I’ll definitely look into that to help pass the time.
Post # 5
@sleepyrebel:Um… I have been a total 100% failure at doing anything on base. If you want to be a part of it, you have to be really proactive. Sign up with FRO and go to as many events as possible. Join LINKS. That’s all I know because… well, I haven;t done anything!
Post # 6
With the Army, new wives are included in FRG (Family Readiness Group) emails and meetings, so you will have the opportunity to meet the wives of your hubby’s co-workers…I would encourage you to attend as many of these meetings as you can! If your FRG is active, then you will have plenty of opportunities to make friends through volunteering and socials 🙂
I agree with maureen9004; I think you will find that living off post will allow your hubby to maintain a separation between work life and home life (as much as possible considering that he IS in the military). My husband actually goes as far as bringing civis (civilian clothes) to work and changes into them before leaving his office, so that if he stops anywhere between post and home, he doesn’t draw added attention to himself.
Another way you can connect to on-post life is to “friend” an Army Wives (or other military branch) Facebook Group. The women belonging to these groups seem very open and friendly, and often have monthy meet-ups for wives who are new to the branch or area.
Best of luck! I’m sure you will find that involvement will come easily *because* of your desire to do so 🙂