(Closed) Living out of our suitcases…Advice Please.

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Well it sounds like you both love each other very much and want to make each other happy.  I think you need to think about what is more important to you?

Someone quoted Dr. Phil saying this:

If my wife, on a scale of 1 to 10 wants another baby at a 12, but I only want a baby around a 3, then who am I to deny her something that would make her SO happy. 

I’m guessing that is maybe how your husband feels.  He knows moving around is like #12 important to you, but staying in one place is like a 3 for him.  He doesn’t want to deny you your happiness. 

However, you also can’t ignore his desires.  It sounds like he might be getting to the end of his rope.  Maybe you can put a time limit such as only 2 places per year for the next 5 years and then after that 1 city per year.  Is there a way that through the moving around you can make it easier on him? 

Best wishes!

Post # 4
2889 posts
Sugar bee

Is the moving related to your career or is it just for fun? What do you and he do for jobs with such frequent moves? Moving is expensive and I can’t imagine it is so easy to get a job when you’ve moved so much in the past. If it is career related that you’re on tour with a band or something, I think that’S a completely different situation than if you just feel the need to move.

Post # 5
2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Are you planning to have kids anytime soon? Because that will bring your touring to a screeching halt. Maybe hubby is secretly waiting for that? Embarassed

Post # 6
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think that love for each other is undeniable from what you wrote, but there is obviously some underlying issues of why you have ants in your pants to move from one place to another to another to another. You must not be a cancer 😉 (cancers are total homebodies). 
I think you should seek some therapy….find a place you both like out of all the places you’ve been, settle down and set goals….lets try to be here 1 year, and seek some therapy of why you always want to move..I think there may be some underlying issues that have not been exposed to you, once you are aware of them, I think you’ll be more conscious. good luck!!!! I love travelling myself…but there is nothing better than coming home to your base! 🙂 

Post # 7
359 posts
Helper bee

@caszos:  Where can I find that quote on the Interwebs?!  SO needs to see that… O.o

Post # 8
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

if you cut down the moving to a few places a year… you can still do weekend trips and tours and things. 

Maybe there is something wrong tho, perhaps counseling?  or talking to someone?  There’s definitely other ways to channel all that energy you have ….

Post # 9
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

there’s definitely something going on that makes you feel like you need to move so often. frankly, it doesn’t sound healthy. seek counseling and try to figure out why you need to move all the time.

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