Post # 1
Married 6 years so Darling Husband and I are quite comfortable and have fallen into a routine. Our living room has a recliner, couch and love seat. No one sits on the love seat because it’s uncomfortable. Darling Husband typically takes the recliner because it’s the prime seat in the house and I’m left with the couch. I’ve requested for Darling Husband to join me and he said he’s willing to switch and give me the recliner and he’ll sit on the couch. That’s not the point! I told him I want sit side by side and cuddle like we used to when we dated. He said the only reason he sat next to me was there wasn’t a choice. Which comes out way worse than it sounds. This is a ridiculous thing to argue about. He knows my feelings on the subject and has joined me for a few shows a week. He told me last night that no couple ever sits side by side on the couch. So to all the couples out there that HAVE a recliner, do you sit side by side or does he sit on his throne and leave you to the peasants?
Post # 2
tiki429: DH and I have sides of the couch. When we had a love seat and a couch one of us often took each so we could both stretch out (sort of).
Darling Husband isn’t a cuddler. He was when we were dating because we would have ‘sneaky fun time’ under the blanket but once we lived together we pretty much stopped sitting close on the couch.
Post # 3
We don’t have a recliner but we do have a couch and love seat. I usually sit on the love seat and he sits on the couch. We don’t usually snuggle while watching tv unless it’s in bed. I think he’s compromising with you though to sit on the couch a few times a week, it doesn’t need to be all or nothing.
Post # 4
tiki429: My husband and I don’t ever sit on our couch now that we live together. It’s left for the cat. We usually hang out in the bedroom to watch movies on his ipad. We don’t have a TV or cable which is the number one reason why we don’t sit on a couch. Maybe just explain your feelings about it and say you’d like to cuddle more?
Post # 5
tiki429: We usually switch off on the recliner and couch. When he is on the couch, I’ll occasionally come cuddle up next to him. Honestly though, we both want to be able to stretch out and be comfortable most of the time.
This isn’t really something to make an issue over, unless you feel like he is just unaffectionate in general. If it bothers you, maybe address that over all issue instead of the couch thing. Comlpaining about where he sits is going to come off as petty to him.
Post # 6
Our situation is pretty similar to yours, but my Darling Husband doesn’t grumble nearly as much when I ask him to sit with me on the couch, and some nights he just doesn’t go to his chair.
My parents did eventually get rid of their love seat and get two recliners. If our living room was able to be aranged in such a way that would make that suitable, I would probably do the same.
Post # 7
We have a recliner but we mainly share the couch. He has his side and I have mine, with the dog in the middle. Sometimes when I want to stretch my legs I’ll ask him to go sit in the recliner and he doesn’t mind. We rarely cuddle on the couch. If we do, our crazy dog feels like she must be in the middle and tries to lay on top of us or squeeze in between us. So we don’t cuddle often.
Post # 8
we have a L shaped couch and depending on the day, our mood, and what we are watching
if we are watching a show that we both are not into (ie his sci-fi stuff) we either sit in our own sides (he takes the L chaise part and I take the middle seat of the “couch”) cause one of us will be on our laptop, if its something I like and not him he will sometimes stretch out so that his feet are towards me and I will sit more in the middle of the couch section
if we are watching a “show” together we put our heads into the L and our feet away from each other and will sometimes hold hands or cuddle closer (my head on his shoulder/chest)
if we are annoyed at each other its opposite corners and no touching!
Post # 9
tiki429: I contest that no other couples sit together! You can’t separate me and my Darling Husband on the couch together. Granted, we don’t have any other choices (no big comfy recliner), but whenever we watch TV, even football, we are all up close and snuggly together.
Post # 10
Replace that loveseat with one that has two recliners built in.
Post # 11
tiki429: We have two couches and a recliner. Darling Husband sits on one side of the room, and I sit on the other, lol. I think it’s because we have end tables near the sides where we sit. We do snuggle on the “cuddle couch” as I like to call it – it’s more of a love seat and both sides recline so you can snuggle comfortable on it when reclined. Honestly… I can’t imagine him sitting next to me every time we sat in the living room!
Post # 12
We have a recliner and a couch. We mostly both sit on the couch together, but every once in awhile my SO goes for the recliner… If I want to be closer to him, I just ask him to join me on the couch, and he does. When the little one is over, one of us is usually on the recliner. Sometimes we’re all on the couch!
Post # 13
We have a huge 9 foot long couch, so we hardly touch on it, we are so spread out. My parents do the recliner and couch thing tho. Dad has his recliner and never sits with mom. Sorry it bugs you!
Post # 14
We have a couch that has a couple of reclining seats built in (it’s a huge ~8 person sectional couch monstrosity). I love it. If someone wants to stretch out they can still be right next to the other person. We don’t have any other seating options in our living room except big poofs to sort of sink into on the floor so everyone is always on the couch. But my SO does pretty much always choose one of the reclining ones. Luckily it’s still a part of the couch so he can’t escape!
Post # 15
tiki429: We basically just have a couch and one chair for when people come over. We always sit on the couch and it’s probably 50/50 sitting together or our dogs are in between and we are at each end. Lol!