Living Situation

posted 1 year ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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7203 posts
Busy Beekeeper

So you want:

-MIL to sell her house

-Give you the money

-You buy a new house

-She lives with you in the new home

But you dont even like living with her now. You just want to get her money. Honestly no, I would not consider this. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

annharrich :  I mean, it’s still her house so I don’t think it’s your decision as to whether or not she can live there? And it’s also not your decision to sell the house?? Unless I’m missing something here… 

You shouldn’t have to live with your Mother-In-Law, but I think you and your husband need to sit down with her and discuss what to do about the house and the money that you’ve invested in it. Would she be willing to pay it back to you, is she willing to sell the house to you? 

ETA before you spent $30K on this home, did you talk to his mom about what that meant? It’s coming off as though you think because you’ve invested this money into her home you now have a lot of say over what happens to it, or that she owes you in some way. 

Post # 4
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8959 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

annharrich :  No. Terrible idea. Give her her house back and buy something you and your husband can afford on your own. 

Post # 5
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11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

$30k is not a lot, in no way does it entitle you to the entire house so you can buy a $900k new build. Plus, you don’t even like living with her.

have you been paying rent to her or just living there without paying taxes or rent and now think improvements entitle you to the whole value?

Daisy_Mae :  all of this.

Post # 7
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5509 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

annharrich :  

It’s not your house… if you can’t live with her, you need to move out. Or you can ask if she’s interested in selling it to you.

It was your choice to renovate a house that you didn’t own.

Post # 9
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907 posts
Busy bee

lol what? You moved in to his mom’s house for free, and sunk money into redecorating. Did she ask you to do that, or did you just barge in and redo the place? And now you’re upset because her sugar daddy died and your plan of having her be “set” didn’t work out? Why on earth would you think that she’d be set for life having met this guy recently? And now you get annoyed because she disagrees with you over “little things” like you decorating HER house?

How about yout set your sights on a house other than 1. you mother in law’s and 2. this 900k house.

Find something you and your husband can afford and move there, just the two of you. 

PS what kind of job does your husband have that he could just move to a different country when you guys got in a fight? 

 

 

Post # 10
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2806 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

annharrich :  It’s unfortunate that Mother-In-Law has experienced these losses, but it sounds like she is perfectly capable of living on her own and taking care of herself. The only way I would live with my own mother or my Mother-In-Law would be if they were ill and could no longer care for themselves, or if they really hit rock bottom and needed some help getting back on their feet- and that would not be a permanent solution. 

I think your husband and Mother-In-Law need to decide to do what the house, whether that means you guys buy her out (not even sure how that works) or vice versa and you start fresh on your own.

Post # 11
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5509 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

Now you say that her and your husband own it. Whose name is on the house?

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