(Closed) Living together and sex

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
9282 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

have it whenever you feel like it.  we usually have sex at night.  but every now and then we have some afternoon or morning sex. 

Post # 3
2837 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

kate19:  This is really something you guys need to figure out on your own- what works best for you.

Sometimes, you need to put the gym or cleaning up after dinner aside- and have a little fun.


Post # 4
33 posts

We started living together after college. At first it was a sex fest with sex multiple times per day.  But life gets in the way of that.  We both have high sex drives, so we still do it quite a bit, after 3 years of living together.  We do it in the morning lately a lot, three times this week.  But this is new for us.  We usually just watch TV and one of us starts to fondle the other and oral quickly follows. Just try to turn off the tv, phone or out down the book and grab him.  

Post # 5
1229 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Just make a point of going to bed earlier, when you’re not totally exhausted.

Post # 6
4697 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Whenever you feel like it?

The monotony of doing it every night before bed is depressing. When you feel like having sex, stop what you’re doing it and go for it.

Post # 7
152 posts
Blushing bee

Whenever… usually whenever the mood strikes, it just happens because it can

Post # 8
192 posts
Blushing bee

kate19:  We have morning sex usually 2-3 tmes a week. Night time sex probably once a week if that. We have a baby and I’m pregnant so I’m tired by the end of the day and I know he is too! I feel like once we get up in the morning we have so much on our plates that it’s hard to find time once the day has started.

Post # 9
6436 posts
Bee Keeper

kate19:  Do it when you feel like it.  don’t be scheduling when to have sex that will definitely take the spontaneity out of it.  Honestly, my husband and I usually do it at night, when we’re watching a movie more because that’s when our daughter is asleep, and we want to, however, we’ve done it during the day when she’s napping or in the morning.  We do have to work around her schedule a bit, but for the most part, it’s not planned.

Post # 10
1798 posts
Buzzing bee

The same thing happened to SO and I when we moved in together. We were in such a rut, but we’ve recently made the effort together to make a change, and it’s been great! You really both have to be on board doing this. I tend to be the person that is too tired or has something else I need to do, but then when we do have sex I really enjoy it. It’s just getting to the point of actually doing it that’s difficult!

Sometimes you just have to plan it. My SO thought I was crazy when I suggested that, but it doesn’t make it any less fun. We don’t plan it down to the second, but we aim for every other day. We usually try to do it after dinner rather than before bed when we are both exhausted. Sometimes we will just have a quicky if one of us is really tired, and it’s always worth it afterwards!

Post # 11
6887 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

kate19:  This sounds like an issue you don’t have to worry about.  You can have sex whenever!  If you’re falling into a routine, or find yourself too tired to have sex before bed, tell him.  Maybe you both can work on initiating more when you get home from work?  My SO and I get into ruts where we only have it once a week, either right before bed if I can stay up while he’s wrapping up his video games, or when we wake up, and it kills me.  But if you communicate, your SO will likely be responsive.

Also, spontaneous sex is the best.  I dislike knowing when we’re going to do it.  It takes the thrill out of it. 

Post # 13
563 posts
Busy bee

It’s so easy to fall into a routine. My boyfriend and I don’t currently live together but I sleep over at his apartment a couple of times per week. We normally have sex on those nights and its normally right before bed. We are a bit more spontaneous on weekends but not much more. This is an area that we could improve in as well. 

Post # 14
2020 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

kate19:  It’s tough because living together can easily put you into a routine… SO and I do most of our love making in the shower. We have a giant shower and we take all of our showers together because I tend to get home late and we both need to shower and get to bed so that’s also where most of our conversation happens too lol. I’d say we average 3 times a week, but weeks where one of us is stressed I’d say just 2 and sometimes not at all during the week then 3 times on the weekend.. I guess you just make it work and sometimes you just gotta rally if you’re tired. Good luck finding your groove, completely normal phase.

Post # 15
1789 posts
Buzzing bee

Whenever.  It happened to be at night most of the time, but thats just of us both being home at the same time. But if were off if work or working a late shift, then morning sex had a better chance. Spontaneity is a helping factor In making sex, and other intamacy, fun 

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