Post # 1
My FI is planning to buy a home this sprinh 2013 and we are getting married summer 2014. We haven’t decided if we will love together and I’m looking for pros and cons of living together a year before the wedding. Btw we are both 22. I’m in school for nursing and he works on an ambulance and at a fire dept:)
Post # 3
@Firemansgirl: Makes sense to move in together since he is buying a house. I say go for it! Plus it makes financial sense as well.
Post # 4
As long as you have no moral opposition to it I say go for it. To me it only makes sense to get to know someone’s living habits and get the kinks worked out before you get married. That way you can truly enjoy your “honeymoon period” without struggling to adjust. Just my two cents. 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I would move in if he’s going ahead and buying a house and you are getting married a few months later.
My FI and I moved in together to share the living expenses. Living by yourself is wayyy too expensive!
Post # 7
DH and I lived together for just over 5 years before we got married. I couldn’t imagine not living with the person I was going to marry beforehand. It really tests the relationship being together 24/7 and sharing responsibilities.
Post # 8
My BF and I are both 22 and we literally just bought a house together and moved in on Friday! So far we love it! haha. I think you have to decide if that’s okay with you. I think nowadays the majority of people do live together before they are married.
Post # 9
My DH and I did not, since, because of our faith, we were morally opposed to living together or having a sexual relationship outside of a marriage commitment.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t marry someone with living with them first.
Post # 11
I say it depends on the couple and their life. If Fi and I were in the same place we lived together. That being said because of a prior experience I don’t think I would have lived with Fi if we weren’t engaged. That just my personal preference. There are pros and cons to both. If it makes sense for you and your finances then go for it.
If you just feel like you enjoy living together after the wedding then do that. Just go for with you gut.
Post # 12
I’d live with my fiance if I could! Only we can’t live together until I finish my degree next year and can move to his country. Then once he’s finished his we can move back to mine, really not a fan of his country. Being legally bound should def help with the visa process. If we could live together without doing so I don’t think we’d bother to be honest.
Post # 13
DH and I lived together before marriage. We were in a semi-LDR (same state, but different counties) and we were finding it tough traveling back and forth after awhile. I was a broke college student and he was working full-time on some weekends too. It made life easier for us. So for us the next step would be to live together before we decided to take the next big step of being engaged then married. I feel it’s important to know someone and their living habits beforehand. It’s easier to adjust during that time. It may not be for everyone though and that’s perfectly fine too.
Post # 14
Not right now, but I’ll be moving in a few months before our wedding!
Post # 15
FI and I decided we didn’t want to move in together before we got married because we felt it would make the wedding feel more special, like there was a very definitive change between before we were married and after we were. I’ve heard a lot of my friends/family who lived together for a while first say that nothing felt very different, and we really wanted that different feeling so that’s what we chose. But if that’s what you want to do then go for it!
Post # 16
I would also consider how your parents might react. If it would upset your parents, you should discuss with FI whether it’s worth having that between them.