Post # 1
So Fiance and I have been officially living together for just over a year now. First in an apartment, and now in a house we rent from his grandparents. Unfortunatly, most of my family and his extended family on his mom’s side would be REALLY upset if they found out. Fiance feels really strongly that we should keep it from them because the wedding is only 3 months away and he thinks it will just be easier. I’m going along with it because he feels so strongly, but my instinct says that we’re adults and it doesn’t really matter what they think. Is anyone else in a similar situation? How are you handling it?
Post # 3
All of our families know we live together and if any of them care, we haven’t heard about it.
Post # 4
Some of my mom’s side, who are all very Catholic, we’re in a bit of a huff about it when he moved in with me. We had planned on going to visit my aunt when my parent’s went there (about a 3 hour drive) but my aunt was very NO about us sleeping in the same bed even though we lived together at that point for over 2 years. His side doesn’t care, the rest of my family doesn’t care. It’s just those few people who made a big whoop about it. Meh.
Post # 5
@beth183: After I graduate from college my bf which is now my husband bought a townhome for us. It was really hard at first because his mom threat me like crap like why am I living at his son’s roof. Some of my aunt were all b**tching and that we’re not married yet. My family were old school, sticking to tradition and very Catholic too. It was so hard to deal with them, but then I don’t really care what they said because me and my bf were together for 8 yrs, so it feels like we’re already married. Plus, we’re done with college, were not like highschool trying to depend on them.
So after few months, my bf (now husband) proposed to me and we decided to get married a yr after. Now it feels good to be legal in papers.. hehe..
Post # 6
We’re living together and it’s no big deal. His family wasn’t thrilled at first but they don’t care now. We didn’t tell them but his mom is super sneaky and found out.
Post # 7
I come from a very conservative Christian family so needless to say some of them were quite upset when we moved in together. Eventually they let it go and the comments died down a bit.
I am 100% glad we did it despite my original concerns. Those difficult post-wedding transitions are over and done with and we fell into being husband and wife with ease.
Post # 8
I moved out of my mom’s house and in with Fiance so my immediate family knows I live with him but FI’s family doesn not know we live together. They are Mormon and would not approve. It’s really a lie of ommission because Fiance doesn’t like to lie verbally. His family knows I have my own apartment, they just don’t know that Fiance lives in it as well. I think I am more concerned about keeping it from them because I want them to like me. Fiance just feels that if they find out then they find out and oh well but in the meantime he doesn’t feel the need to rub it in their face and make them unhappy.
Post # 9
We lived together for almost two years before getting married. Our families knew and didn’t care at all. In fact, all of our siblings and cousins lived with their future spouses before marriage.
Post # 10
Not only have we been living together for 13 years, we have 3 kids. No one said boo! LOL. And his mom is VERY Catholic.
Post # 11
Just want to add that everyone is happy we’re finally tying the knot though… but it won;t make us any MORE than what we already are: a family.
Post # 12
I didn’t “officially” move in until the weeks before the wedding. I still had my apartment and kept all my furniture, etc, there.
Eventually most of my family figured out I was living there but not everyone. They didn’t say anything but wouldn’t have been happy if I really up and moved in with him before the wedding (or before we were engaged!).
Post # 13
We don’t live together. Many of our family members would be upset and/or talk about us if we did. I can’t believe so many Bees’ families are okay with premarital cohabitation!
Post # 14
we are not living together, however we really didn’t even discuss it because we are living in seperate cities before our wedding. however, if we were in the same city, i imagine that we would live apart if we could do so without breaking the bank. we both think that our marriage will be more special to us if we withhold cohabitation until the official “i do.”
Post # 15
We lived together for 2+ years before marriage. My family did not care at all. Almost his whole family didn’t like it, and we heard whispers every now and again. Ironically, most of the disapprovals came out after we got engaged and married.
When we visited my family, they allowed us to share a room. His family did not (which we totally respected), so when we visited, we chose to stay in a hotel.
Post # 16
My SO and I don’t live together and probably won’t until after the wedding. His family is very Catholic and would be VERY upset… However, he and I stay with each other almost every night at either my place or his, so it feels like we’re living together already. We’re already in the habit of speaking as if we live together (i.e. “let’s do such and such when we get home”).