@flutiecutie: She is technically somewhat correct in her assertation. I’m Christian. Older people think it’s horribly wrong, but there’s nothing really technially wrong with just living with a guy. The biggest problem as far as “Christianity” goes is it’s offending people and that it gives the appearance of wrong doing (even though you’re not actually doing anything wrong). You should avoid partaking in the appearance of evil, as it’s not a good witness or testimony of your faith. People who don’t know you’re not having sex will think you are, and it’s not a good way portray Christianity, because it appears that you are having sex.
Also, you should avoid temptation. But just hanging out alone with your fiance in a home is basically the same thing, so realistically, I don’t count that either. If you’re in separate beds, that’s totally fine. If you are in the same bed every night, you could do better to avoid temptation in that case, and it also somewhat trivializes marriage because you should only sleep in the same bed with your husband (under the belief we’re speaking of). You wouldn’t do that with a roommate or a guy friend or a brother.
Theoretically, you shouldn’t do things that you know are offensive to people, and you should always do your best to be a good witness, as it could negatively affect the viewpoint of those around you.
However, if you can’t afford to live apart, or it would just be financially ridiculous, it may just simply be the way you have to do it. It is most certainly none of her business, either way. I mean, there has to be a line that you have to draw, otherwise you would basically have to avoid everyone all the time. Maybe you shouldn’t have a glass of wine in a restaurant, because some misguided “Christian” believes it’s a sin. Well, it’s not, but that person might still be genuinely offended. If people don’t actually know what they claim to believe, why should you work so hard to not offend them on their shallow beliefs?
You’re right. She has no business judging you. She’s not God. If she’s ever done anything wrong in her life, then she has no place to point her finger. She has, of course, so she doesn’t. Tell her to show you in the Bible where it says you shouldn’t simply be reside in the same building as a man. 😛 lol She’s also giving the appearance of doing wrong by being so judgemental.
Here are some really great versus to point out to her, next time she wants to get all judgey on you: http://www.openbible.info/topics/judging_others