(Closed) Living with boyfriend and his sisters

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

Can you guys use the money you’re saving by living in his mom’s house to buy or rent a place to yourself?

Moving out or sharing your home with your boyfriend’s family seem to be the only alternatives.

Or maybe your boyfriend’s mom would be willing to sale him the house foe a reasonable price?

Post # 3
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Helper bee

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Mlim:  Please don’t take this as me being harsh, but you have a pretty sweet deal right now.

You said it yourself, you have enough alone time. If I could go back five years and tell myself anything, is stay where the discounts are for as long as possible. I understand that it can be frustration, but from what it sounds like, they’re not really bothering you by living there. It’s just the fact that they live there with you that bothers you. I have had roommates all of my life, and even now my Fiance is my roommate. You learn to deal. If you and your boyfriend are serious about your future together, then stay in the house as long as possible and save up money to buy your own house. Or, you can offer to pay for the title of the house the mom is holding on to. I guess in the end, I would stay at that house where you have it made until you and your boyfriend set some more concrete plans for your future; like an engagement or getting married. You don’t want to get stuck in a lease or a mortgage with someone you’re not 100% sure will be there in your future

Post # 4
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Busy bee

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becomingsumner:  “stay where the discounts are for as long as possible”…..yes yes yes yes YES. 🙂 Save that dough, live cheap for now while you are young and your roommates are family. You will be so grateful for it in a few years when you have that 20% down for a house, no problem.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am not clear why your fiance should get the house, and his sisters nothing.  Does not sound fair to me.  Whatever.  I think the house should either be sold and proceeds split or everyone gets to use it when needed.  BTW, there may be a time when YOU and fiance need a temporary place.  I would try to stay. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I really honestly don’t see the problem! You aren’t exactly owed a free house :/ It sounds like everyone is pulling their weight and being respectful of each others’ space and need for privacy.

As a 25-year old married person who has lived away from home financially independently for 8 years… seriously, you have a sweet deal. Me and my DH live in a tiny expensive apartment and we are not going to be buying a house within the next 10-15 years barring à miracle or lottery win. 

I totally agree with PPs’ about saving money. Also, you should just feel grateful and privileged!

Finally, I am seriously having trouble understanding why you two feel entitled to this house!?

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