- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
So I moved away from home when I was 19 & joined the military. Long story short, I ended up marrying a guy I went to high school with & in 2008 he joined me in the other state I was living in. In 2011, his dad had a heart attack, his 33 BIL diagnosed w/cancer, and my dad went through a horrible divorce leaving him less than equipped to pay for the family house by himself.
In 2009, my brother married a Jehovah’s Witness. He converted sometime before that to be with her. To be clear, before he met her, he was your typical drinking frat-boy hooking up with girls. I was not sure about the whole thing, but you can’t exactly dictate what your sibling does with his life.
So fast forward, brother & SIL move in with dad to help with mortgage & we decide after our lease is up in other state, we will move home in with my dad. It’s a win-win since I still don’t have a job, and it’s a nice house.
The issue I am having is living with their religion. To be clear, I do not have a problem with Jehovah’s… I have a problem with the way they Jehovah. First off, there’s all these rules they told me about (uh one awkward thing is they don’t believe in the military!) is they can’t watch R rated movies, they can’t get drunk, they don’t say good luck, and they don’t say “bless you” after you sneeze. They don’t celebrate birthdays (like my dad’s was last month, they wouldn’t eat the cupcakes I bought).
But on certain days… they aren’t doing what they say they are supposed to do when it fits them. For example, they get drunk… I’ve already see the wife throw up in the toilet. They watch some R rated films and asked to borrow my seasons of Dexter. My birthday is in 12 days, I want to go to a baseball game, and apparently they do too… and said since it’s not on my actual birthday (the game) they can go. Uhhhhhh, but it’s in CELEBRATION of my birthday. They missed church to watch a hockey play offs game. They missed door knocking bc they were hungover.
However, when it pleases them, they are suddenly Jehovah.
I have a real problem with this… but I am afraid to say anything since we all live together. I’m just more venting than anything, it’s the two-sideness of it all and it just seems so… fake.
Also…they believe only 144,000 people can get into heaven. Why do you try to get people in the religion if only that many people go to heaven? I would have no chance!! LOL.
Hopefully they will move out soon… they are not bad people, I just am one of those people who do what they say they are going to do. I don’t make rules with exceptions so this collides with our personalities. I’m just not sure how to deal with it until then.