(Closed) Living with parents after the wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

First off, it’s only going to be three months; that will fly by.

My close friend and her hubby did this for six months after they got married so they could financially get on their feet. She said it did suck a little that they couldn’t really get it on whenever they wanted, but she said it really wasn’t bad. Your parents won’t always be home, and just make sure to have some date nights away from the house to get some space. Hang in there!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

J and I are currently living with his parents until our financial situation get a tad better.  Granted we’re not married yet, but it has it’s pros and cons.  It’ll go by quick though.  At least you have a date to look forward to.  I only have hope the time will come soon.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Disregard this post – it was a double.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Well, do you get along with your mother and brother as it is? If you get along okay, then it’ll be fine. If you don’t have a good relationship, it’ll be hell. Oh, and the house should be large enough to accommodate you–if you’re going to be sleeping on the couch or something, I’d run. 

But, assuming you do have a decent relationship and the house is large enough to handle two extra residents, I think that while it’s not ideal, it’s not the end of the world. You’ll establish and cement a family relationship AND perhaps save some money. And so long as they respect your privacy, it can also be nice to have company around and family dinners and stuff. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Even if you get along with them its really hard to live in someone elses house. But you have to do what you have to do. Just dont let it effect your marriage.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my BIL and his wife lived at his parents house for about 3mths while they were renovating their home – all survived and they have a good relationship

worse case senario you and your hubby will spend alot of time outdoors to get some space ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think its really important to set boundaries and make sure everything is clear up front.  Things like will you contribute to the electricity bill, who will buy groceries, how does priority go for bathrooms and laundry, how will chores be shared, etc.  

I think 3 months isn’t long at all.  We lived with my IL’s when we were engaged for almost 6 months.  It was fine but they are really laid back.  

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ll be doing this for 3 months or so when we get married. We are going to need some of our wedding money to help with our downpayment so we are going to need a place in the interim. My parents were gracious enough to give up the entire downstairs floor of our house which has its own kitchen, full bathroom, etc so at least we will have some separate space.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My husband and I are living with my parents until we get savings built up and enough for a nice downpayment on a house.  Luckily I have amazing parents who love my husband very much, so while it’s not our precise ideal, it’s a good place for us to be for the time being.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

It will fly by! It’s not forever.  It’s nice you have the option to stay with them for a little while too.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ugh, yes. My hubby transfered to a job 2 hours away so we had to move in with our Father-In-Law who lives closer. Then of course, my FIL’s job started caving in, so we’re stuck here to support him now. It does suck, but it’s not forever. Just think positive and kept yourself busy. One day soon you’ll be free to run about in your skivvies and be your own people again. ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance and I have been living together since August, at my parents house.  We plan on living together after the wedding until we feel comfortable enough to have plenty of money for a down payment on a house and a little wiggle room.  My parents are very laid back and love my Fiance. We have our own privacy down stairs with a bedroom and living room.  The time will fly by, and it will not be that bad!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

3 months will go by pretty fast.  If you get along with both, I think it should be fine.  I know if I lived with my parents after we’re married, my mom would cook for us.  =) 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

my fiance lives with his mom, i live with my mom and dad. my parents are actually recently divorced and loosing their house due to foreclosure but we are all still living here for as long as we can. it’s pretty much a month by month situation, but i am hoping we can ride it out a few more months! whenever we need to move i’m planning on living with my mom wherever she ends up renting until the wedding since we are both paying for our wedding ourselves. my parents would love to be able to help it they could, but obviously they are in no financial situation to do so! we live an hour away from each other now, and hope to eventually buy something somewhere in between. we have already realized that this will probably mean one of us moving in with the other’s mom for a few months after the wedding. i am figuring it might make more sense for me to move with him to his mom’s since i am a teacher and we are getting married in march, so by the time we are back from the honeymoon i will only have about two months left of school and only about two months of making that hour commute! the only downside is we have a dog who currently lives with me and his mom already has two dogs! it might get interesting, but if 3 or so months of craziness mean we can buy our own place instead of renting i’m okay with it! ๐Ÿ™‚

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