(Closed) Living with your fiance while planning your wedding.

posted 5 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
1669 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Well, I live with mine and we are both religious. Our pastor knows that we live together and is fine with it.  I realize that is not always the case. This is really dependent on your personal faith and also the faith of your church.

Where do you live? In the US, you don’t need an additional courthouse wedding, but I know in some countries the legal portion is seperate.

Post # 4
611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@mgarcia01:  who do you plan on marrying you?

some churches/pastors make it a big deal that this does not happen and will not perform the ceremony and if its important to you to have a certain person marry you you should ask them

Post # 5
7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@mgarcia01:  You should ask your pastor. Some pastors are very particular about couples living together before marriage.

As for your other questions–if you are in the US you just need a church wedding. You don’t want to have to the courts to get married first.

Post # 6
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Our Pastor was fine with it, but talk to yours, first!

Post # 7
567 posts
Busy bee

A lot of churches are strongly against cohabitation. The idea is that living together equates to sex. I heard a pastor say that he would never believe that a couple living together wasn’t sleeping together. Churches seem to spend a lot of time teaching against cohabitation. Plenty of couples sleep together without living together and get praised for not living together. 

Post # 8
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m really encouraged to see someone else asking this question! From another Christ-follower’s perspective, I’d wait… we waited and are very glad we did. I know cohabitation doesn’t equal sex, but it’s still an area my Darling Husband and I decided not to even get close to. It made planning a little harder, yes, but so worth the wait. Moving in together AFTER the wedding was such a welcome relief. I wasn’t worried about balancing fiancee/wife attitudes, I wasn’t worried about the example we were setting for others, I wasn’t worried about going “too far” sexually alone in our house, I wasn’t worried about planning a wedding as technically unmarried while acting married.

There was a lot of peace in waiting to live together, which made it completely worth the extra driving time during those few months before.

And as to your other point, we had them done at the same time: marriage license signed by our pastor who married us (not in a church, but same idea).

Whatever you end up doing, if you’re seeking God first, your wedding and marriage will be awesome 🙂 I’m so happy for you!


Post # 9
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mgarcia01:  It depends on your church. My personal belief (and a fairly traditional Christian belief) is that living in the same house is ok but having pre marital sex is not.

As for the court marriage versus church marriage, that depends on what country you are in. In my country (Australia) most church ministers are authorised to perform marriages, so there is no need for a court marriage. I think some countries are different though.

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