(Closed) Loan repayment from ex

posted 4 years ago in Finances
Post # 31
468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

E-mails aren’t legally binding contracts and she could say they were photoshopped/faked. He is going to spend a lot more in legal fees with no guarantee of getting repayment. Even though this can’t be deducted on taxes, consider this your charity case.

Post # 32
9384 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

sorry bee.  I’d be really frustrated too, but I don’t think anything can be done to get it back, beyond pestering her.


Post # 33
6185 posts
Bee Keeper

The only person that can tell you what’s legally binding is an actual attorney that has all the info. I would not go by what happens in a TV court. I think it’s worth the consult fee. 

Post # 34
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I’m a lawyer and just wanted to pop in to tell you to ignore everyone giving you legal advice. You haven’t given us enough information to determine whether she had a legally binding obligation to pay him back (I would need to ask you way more questions before I would give you a definitive answer on that). All of the”legal” conclusions people are telling you are baseless (and wrong). So just don’t take legal advice from internet strangers, myself included.

Post # 35
648 posts
Busy bee

Exactly what ttw16 above me said! Only a contract law lawyer can help you with this. No one here can. I personally think it’s worth pursuing. I’m not a lawyer, but I did have to study contract law for a brief time, and I have read judgements where less than an email was considered binding. 

Post # 36
1757 posts
Buzzing bee

“He has an email from her saying she would pay him back.” — This will hold up in court! It will prosecute even better if she’s made any payments. $30k is a LOT of money, I hope you get it back.

Post # 37
2317 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

THat money is goooone. Hope he learnt a lesson

Post # 38
5243 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

30k is not a lot of money once legal fees have come out of it. 

Post # 39
2188 posts
Buzzing bee

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bluesun100 :  If he had an intention to marry her and loans had high interest, his assistance to pay them off was so that when they get married they can lower their montly debt obligation. If they planned to have joint accounts, all bills would be joined and would come out of the same pot of money. Not knowing much about their arrangement or past relationship, I am not in strong opinion that she even morally should pay it back. And without a detailed written contract, that money is gone. As far as getting annoyed that people don’t do what they promise-hahaaaa. That is about 99% of everyone out there at some point in time. If you expect everyone to do what they promised at all times – that will lead to huge dissapointments in people and in life. 

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