(Closed) Local Friends to Bach Party, but not to Wedding??

posted 8 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Should I invite local ladies to my in town bach. party, even though they are not invited to wedding?
    Yes!! The more the merrier! : (8 votes)
    32 %
    No that's tacky. : (17 votes)
    68 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1982 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think that if it’s the kind of thing where you’ll be going out for a few drinks, that’s ok. If it’s something where people will bring gifts and talk about the wedding–nope. It really depends on the plans! Good luck!

    Post # 4
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    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I wouldn’t invite anyone not invited to the wedding but if that’s a more common thing with your group of friends and nobody cares then go ahead. Here it’s definitely a faux pas.

    Post # 5
    Member
    4123 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I would bill it more of a “non-wedding” event party to lead up to your big day. Make it sound more casual or as if it’s a celebration with those who can’t come (cause they’re not on the list).

    Post # 6
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    2208 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think LaborofLove is right, it depends on the event. I would keep it casual, and just invite them personally, doing a “you know I would love to have you at the wedding, but we had to make some painful limits to our guest list because of the economy (best excuse ever!). I would love to spend some time celebrating with you, though, because you are important to me. I’m having a fun little get together before the wedding for some local ladies, and I would love you to come. No gifts or anything, it is just going to be a fun night out.”

    Post # 8
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    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    A couple years ago I played volleyball with a friend.  We played on the team together but weren’t really friends outside of that.  She just nicely explained that the wedding list itself was tight but she would love for any of us to come out and party and celebrate with her (she requested no gifts).  It was a great way for all of us that weren’t really that close to her, but still loved her dearly celebrate her marriage and to partake in a fun girls weekend.

    In the end she called me the week before the wedding and appologized that the list was tight and I did not get an invitation, but some space had cleared up and I could attend the wedding if I wanted to.  I ended up going with some other mutual friends that we had it was wierd at all, it was a blast. 

    Now that friend is my Maid/Matron of Honor, I am really glad she called and invited me to her wedding even though I was probably on the “D” list at the time!

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