Post # 1
has anyone ever achieved a catholic wedding in an outdoor setting? I grew up catholic my SO did not he is not the biggest fan of the chatholic church. But because it would mean alot to me he is willing to participate in a traditional catholic wedding, that beign said we are not that traditional and we actually want our weddign done on top of a mountain. Has anyone ever heard or seen a catholic priest perform a wedding out doors?
Post # 3
This is almost never done – Catholic weddings are supposed to take place inside the church. They are also, ideally, supposed to take place in your church (i.e. the community where you live and are a member of the parish), which is why it can be difficult to schedule a wedding at a parish where you’re not a member. “Shopping around for a wedding venue” is not really the best way to approach it if it’s a Catholic wedding.
If it means a lot to you and your FI to have the ceremony out of doors, you could look at the following options:
a) do a very small church wedding with just yourself, the priest and your witnesses, maybe the day before or the morning of, and then have whatever outdoor ceremony you want with the rest of your guests
b) do your actual wedding at the outdoor ceremony, then get a convalidation (i.e. the Church gives its blessing to the marriage) as soon as possible afterward
From the Church’s standpoint, a is preferable and involves a little less bureaucracy and paperwork, although ideally the Church would like you to have the actual wedding with all the guests be the church wedding. If you really want it to be out of doors, though, you can probably find a priest who will attend and give you some kind of blessing, but Roman Catholic priests wouldn’t be allowed to officiate a full wedding outside of a church without a special dispensation from the bishop.
Post # 4
To add on to @KCKnd2:‘s excellent post, you might contact your parish and ask about what locations are available in your area. I didn’t know this when I got married, but my diocese actually has two outdoor chapels that are only avaialable for weddings and services in the summer. Both are really gorgeous and rustic, but I only learned about them recently!
Post # 5
Thanx ladies. I know its a difficult one. Also what makes it harder is we just moved to Hawaii so we don’t acctually belong to a perish yet. So this whole thing is very confusing to me .
Post # 6
One good piece of info to have: wherever you live, you are automatically a “member” of that parish, even if you haven’t gone to Mass yet there or registered. Parishes are geographic divisions of dioceses (kind of like counties are geographic divisions of states) and, under Canon law, a Catholic has the right to receive his/her sacraments and so the parish where you live automatically has to consider you a member and work with you. Now, whether or not it’s a beautiful church/has good music/you like the priest, etc., are all separate questions, but at the very least you should know that you have a parish you can turn to and they can’t turn you away by telling you you’re “not a member yet.”