Post # 1
I’m seriously having problems figuring out a wedding location. My Fiance and I live in New York City, but my parents live in England and his parents live in Japan. My extended family lives in Canada and his extended family lives in Japan. HELP!
I love the idea of getting married in Japan, but I don’t want to put my guests out and my family guest list (from Canada) is about 3 times larger than his (from Japan).
I’m not totally sold on a double wedding either. Could I have the wedding in Japan and a formal party for those who couldn’t come in New York City? I’m lost! Any suggestions out there? THANKS! 🙂
Post # 3
talk to both sets of parents & see what they think. seems like most people will have to travel regardless. are your parents willing & able to fly to japan? if so then your idea seems perfect! otherwise I would say NYC seems more central.
Post # 4
I seen a lot of brides who do two, one for his traditions and family, and one for yours. They have a lot of fun, but of course it’s spendy. Though the idea of the party sounds totally acceptable too!
If this isn’t a possibility to do two weddings/ceremonys I would have the wedding in the place where the majority of the guest list lives, since not putting them out seems inportant to you. It’s what I’m doing as well, my FI’s family is from England and thats where his extended family is, but we have more then half our guest list here – and being able to fly out there for a lot of the folks here isn’t doable.
Post # 5
I’m in a similar situation as you. Fiance and I live in Singapore now and my family in Sri Lanka which is quite close to Singapore (kind of like US and Canada) and his family is in the US.
We decided to have our wedding in Singapore where we live and where its most convenient for us to plan it. This was an easy choice for us though because we want a small event with just our closest family and friends. Our immideate family and some close friends are flying here and we’re having a casual wedding with 50 guests.
I think it depends on the type of wedding you want to have and what the most important aspect of the event is for you e.g. Large with lots of guests or small and intimate. I think the biggest hurdle we had to cross was knowing that not everyone we want here will be able to make it and being ok with that. It’s disappointing when people tell you they can’t make it but its not an indicator of their love for you and I’ve come to realize that if I try to make everyone happy I will go crazy!
I guess my advice is do what’s best for you and your Fiance in terms of what your ideal wedding would be and everything else will fall into place. It really helped me to make a list of the 3 most important things for me to have at my wedding.
Post # 6
Not sure what advice to offer, but just wanted to say I live in Vancouver, Canada so if you choose to go with a wedding in Canada, let me know if you would like any help from someone local!
Post # 7
Thanks so much to everyone for their advice! It’s so helpful to run things by fellow brides since my friends and family are likely getting sick of hearing me stuck on location. THANK YOU!
I think the advice to pick your top three wedding things of importance is such a great idea!
I have one more question though. Say I pick Japan for the wedding and NY as a party location, should I send out one invitation to everyone inviting them to both and have them pick one or both? How would that work best?
Thanks again, girls! 🙂
Post # 8
GlobalBride – since it’s really two separate events, I would probably send two separate invites, even if it’s to the same people. Or you could do a single invite but with separate inserts inside the invitation for the two events? You could do a single RSVP card covering both events that way.
Post # 9
Where are you from? I’m from the UK originally, but now live in NZ and my fiance is a Kiwi. I decided to get married here rather than in the UK but it’s caused no end of trouble and stress. How likely are your parents to travel v his parents? My parents aren’t great travellers whereas H2B’s are – so in hindsight – I should have chosen the UK!