Post # 1
Heavy on my mind is the wedding location. Where, where, where????
There are three ideas on the table that carry quite a bit of weight, all of which come with their individual pros and cons.
- Northern California Wedding (convenient for planning as both the groom and I live here. I have some family here and most of our friends are here)
- East Coast Wedding (convenient for grooms family and that’s super duper important to him)
- Tropical Wedding (my dream and incorporates our love of travel but may leave out the people we love most)
This decision is overwhelming and yet it also holds up the planning of the rest of the wedding.
At a crossroad…not sure what to do.
Post # 3
usually it’s where the couple lives or the bride’s home town. I think its a little unreasonable for him to expect it to be convenient for his family, so i say Northern CA! It will be much easier for you to plan if you are near the location.
Post # 4
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
I would say Tropical Wedding because that is your dream. Since someone is going to end up traveling why not make it fair and have both of them travel, then no one feels like they got priority over the other.
Otherwise if having certian people there is more important find out from them (not all they guests, just the most important ones) which location would work better for them or would the love to go away with guys somewhere.
Post # 5
I’m for desintation because..well I’m doing a destination. However if I were in your shoes, I would do a NoCa wedding, then maybe do a reception later in his hometown for guests that were unable to attend. You can do an informal reception on the east coast. This way you will incorporate everyone 🙂
Post # 6
Maybe look at it this way – what will a wedding cost you in NoCal versus a tropical wedding? Initially we looked at getting married near where we live (but not near any of our families) and found out it would cost the same amount (if not less) to get married in FL – which was our first choice to begin with. After that, it was a no-brainer to us.
I would advise against getting married near his family (unless yours lives there too). Even if your family would seem cool with it now, weddings tend to make people act really effing weird and there might be resentment down the road.
Post # 7
I second Mrs. Meerkat! But I know this is a tough decision. A tropical wedding was my dream too and I was very, very fortunate that it worked out for me. But there were many times during our engagement when I didn’t know what was going to happen. Try to decide what’s most important to you and go from there–good luck!
Post # 8
We decided on Miami, FL last night. Still tropical but yet convenient for his family to attend.
Thanks ladies for ALL the feedback and support. More post to come, now that the planning can begin!