(Closed) Locked card boxes- would you be offended?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 16
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906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We hid our lock under a ribbon.  No one thought twice about it.

 

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I wouldn’t be offended. Even some family members can’t be trusted, and like PP said usually it’s the venue/wait staff or other vendors you’d need to worry about. 

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

One option besides having a locked box (if you strongly feel that it could offend people) is putting someone trustworthy in charge of watching over the box before the ceremony as everyone is walking in and dropping off their cards/gifts and taking the cards out of them once everyone has moved into the reception room. Most of our cards had money in them and we didn’t have any issues. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

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k8goeslz :  why would someone be offended for protecting their gift.to you? My cousin had several envelopes stolen at her wedding. It was devastating for them. They had to first call people to see if they gave a gift which was embarrassing….then they had to have people who wrote checks put a stop on them. Anyone who gave cash was out of luck. We don’t know who it was…could have been family, friends or event staff. Better to be safe than sorry later.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

It’s becoming more common to have a card box here in the UK. The design most common is a post box which would need a key to open as standard. If I saw a lock I’d assume it was to protect from the many vendors not a guest. Not offensive at all

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I would not be offended. There are people who would steal anything that is not nailed down. The very knowledge that there is money somewhere is enough to bring out the crazies.

Can you make or buy a wooden box that looks cute, and the lock blends in with the idea or colors of your wedding, so it just fits in, and couldn’t offend? Like, it looks like the lock just happens to be there as a decoration (but you know it is there as a lock!)?

I guess stories about guests or staff raiding cards for money isn’t so uncommon! I know of a case where the groom’s drunken frat brothers opened the cards for money to spend at the cash bar at the wedding.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My card box was locked and I was glad it was because we received 20k in cash/checks (we didn’t have a registry). My box was made by my father and was wooden so the top was screwed in and someone would have to steal the whole cadr box to get the cards out. You should lock yours! Get a cute heart shaped lock and have your initials and wedding date engraved on it so that it looks cute! I don’t think people will be offended. 

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

 I read on here someone who put velcro on the bottom of their box and attached it to the tablecloth. That way if anybody tried to lift up the box the whole tablecloth would come off with it. 

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee

I wouldn’t be offended, because I wouldn’t presume that the lock was to protect against ME specifically. I think anyone who took a locked card box personally would probably be offended by something at your wedding no matter what.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

I wouldn’t be offended. I would never assume it was me the couple was worried about.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

Our venue pulled in the card box after guests arrived.  We had about 50 people too.  Our box wasn’t locked.  It was actually just an open hat box. 

I think I’d roll my eyes if I saw a locked box.  I seriously wouldn’t care, but I’m easily judgy. 

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018- Stan Hywet Gardens

We are planning on keeping the card/gift table away from the entrance  (closer to our sweetheart table) and putting it in the bridal suite after dinner. 

 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee

You trust me enough to invite me to your wedding but don’t trust me not to be a thief?

I take it as passive agressive negativity and would be offended. 

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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k8goeslz :  I would not be offended. It’s not necessarily the guests you have to be worried about and you wouldn’t want to worry or have someone be in charge. I’m sure you can make the lock a part of the design or discreet. I say no big deal- do it!

Post # 30
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

You can just glue it all together so the card box had to be taken apart to get to the cards. That’s what I did. 

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