Post # 31
We haven’t yet settled on our card box, so I can’t tell you what we’re doing, but I wouldn’t be offended if I saw it was locked. I understand that thefts have occurred in the past, so it’s always better to be safe then sorry. A friend of mine who recently got married used a birdcage for their card box – the gap between the bars was too small to put anything but a card through and they had woven fake flowers through the little door so that it was pretty much impossible to open unless you cut through them or stood there for ages untangling them (and someone wouldn’t definitely notice you doing this).
Post # 32
i wouldnt be offended, because i wouldnt think that it was locked because i had sticky fingers. you could trust all of your guests but things happen. people drink, people see a box potentially filled with money and things happen. plus do you know and trust every staff member at your wedding. what about if it takes place at some sort of public venue like a hotel ballroom. random people wandering around. if you don’t have a lock on the box, at least appoint someone trustworthy to watch the box and pull it after dinner.
Post # 33
Not at all!! I’ve been to several weddings with locked boxes. I never took it as offense to me or any other guests. I always assumed it was more for the staff & any uninvited “guests” that walk in wanting to steal.
Post # 34
It’s totally normal here.
Post # 35
I honestly don’t think I’d even notice if it was locked (or think twice if the lock was really obvious). I definitely wouldn’t be offended.
Post # 36
Yeah it’s not the guests you should mistrust, but staff passing through that you don’t know. We aren’t having a lock but we are diying a box such that to retrieve any cards, one would have to tear the box open
Post # 37
kipper88 : Love your box. Where’d you get it?
Post # 38
Just create or buy a box that opens at the bottom or is one piece. And as someone mentioned, Velcro or attach it to the tablecloth somehow.
Post # 40
Think it’s smart to lock it up, this never crossed my thoughts but our wedding coordinator very strongly suggested it. We also ended up not having it out in the open after the ceremony, the wedding coordinator “hid” the box under the DJ’s table and when stragglers wanted to give a gift card, they would ask her and she would just put it in. Was a good system, also I don’t think I’d be offended, shit happens at wedding unfortunately.
Post # 41
I know some people mentioned removing it after guests are seated for dinner, but many people forget or wait until a little later to put it in and having it out the whole night is easier.
We weren;t thinking about locking ours but after some convincing from my Future Mother-In-Law we will be trying to find something that locks. I don’t want the box near the sweetheart table as weddings were ive had that I found strange.
I would noit be offened or really think about it, my thoughts after a ceremony are get me booze and get me the card box, its the only responsibility I have to take care of before having a fun night.
Post # 42
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I see nothing wrong with a locked card box! I don’t think guests would be offended either.
Speaking as someone who went through a now-former friend (who had been friends with Darling Husband since they were literally babies) stealing HUNDREDS of dollars out of a ‘honeymoon fund’ cookie jar in my home…you can’t trust even the people you are closest too!
Post # 43
I’ve honestly never noticed if a card box locks or not. Most of the ones I’ve seen just have a slot to drop cards into, like a mailbox. I assume some were locked. Could you get one that locks in a more subtle way than a great big padlock on the front?
Post # 44
I think that lock boxes are a great idea. We are likely going to be using a filagree style card holder shaped like a mailbox and adding a small heart shaped lock.
I do have to add that as someone that at one time worked in a hotel as banquet staff, the staff is less likely to steal anything than your own guests or a random passerby. A lot of the staff woking these events rely on their jobs to support families or since i was a high school student back in those day, I had car payment and school events to pay for, so my job was not worth a few gift cards to bed bath and beyond and few hundred in cash. Regardeless, its recommended to secure your box, whether it have its own security detail or a cute ribbon wrapped around it serving double duty.