Post # 1
Well, my bridal party has caused me a lot of grief in the past, and it seems it will continue to do so… lol. One of my bridesmaids recently dropped out of the wedding party. She has legitimate reasons to do so and I saw it coming — I’m not even mad. But it leaves me with a vacancy in my party.
I am thinking about asking a male friend of mine to be in the party, but I feel it would be confusing. Should he wear the same attire as the groomsmen? Obviously he doesn’t carry flowers… should he be holding anything? When does he enter druing the recessional? And what the heck do I call his role (if he agrees to do it)?
Anyone have a male bridesmaid? Please explain how you’re handling it.
Sorry about the incomplete post the first time around, I accidentally sent it before I was finished typing.
Post # 3
U want to fill it in and your wedding is in 2 months? I wouldnt at this point especially since you are already having issues. This won’t help.
Post # 4
Why fill the spot? Uneven numbers of attendants are perfectly fine. It doesn’t have to be matchy matchy.
If you do fill in, I might have him in the same attire as the groomsmen, but maybe a different colour tie (same as Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, maybe). But it would depend on the rest of the Bridal Party look, really. And yeah, no bouquet.
Post # 5
I recently attended a friend’s wedding, where she had a male attendant, and the groom’s sister stood on his side as an attendant. I believe they walked down the aisle together, but stood on the opposite side. He was dressed just as the groom’s attendants were, and she was in a black dress just like the bridesmaids.
Do you have a female that is close to your groom that could stand on his side to balance things out?
Post # 6
@Sevyn: Is this friend and your Fiance close? I kind of have the same situation (my male friend is walking me down the aisle) and I am having him get ready with my Fiance because they’re pretty good friends. All the guys are wearing the same tux, except my Fiance has an ascot instead of a tie. I made them each a different boutonniere from various video games (all the guys are gamers).
Post # 7
@Sevyn: I have seen it done many ways. I have seen a man stand up for a bride in a matching suit color to the BM’s – or with his vest and tie matching them.
I have seen them in matching suits to the GM’s – but for some reason I feel like it is out of place…like he didn’t know where to stand.
I vote for the first look because it will be obv. that he is there for you.
I once was a ‘best man’ for a guy. I wore a women’s suit in the same color as the GM’s and had a undershirt that matched the BM’s. 🙂 It was super fun!
Post # 8
I have 3 bridesmen (my brothers), 2 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen (so uneven, and a lot of men).
My bridesmen are wearing blue shirts and green ties, the bridesmaids are wearing blue dresses. Then the groomsmen are weating green shirts and blue ties (opposite the bridesmaids). So they are similar, but different.
We aren’t 100% sure how to walk down the aisle, we are either going to have everyone sneak in on the sides, leaving the main aisle just for me. Or the the men sneak in on the side, my brothers/bridesmen walk down grandparents & my mom and then the bridesmaids, and then me & my Dad.
We are not “pairing” them up in anyway, because that would be weird for us.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
My FIs sister is his Best Gal and I secretly want her to wear a really fitted womens suit really bad (with kickass heels and great hair and makeup)
Post # 10
@Sevyn: I think it depends on what kind of wedding you are having.
Are the girls in mismatched dresses, are the men is varying shades of “x” attire? Or are they all wearing the same design.
I would try to find out on your own first, if you can get or find the attire he would need, and if it’s too complicated then having a missing person wouldn’t be too bad.