- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2017
Alright, I looked around and didn’t find much relating to my specific needs. Fiance and I pretty much have our hearts set on a dessert reception–not so much cake and punch, but think a cross between a bakery/cake shoppe/candyland. We’re both famous for having massive sweet tooths and the image of an enchanted garden wedding, chowing down on a warm pumpkin bread or a chai cupcake while surrounded by candlelight and trees… that’s exactly what I’ve dreamt of since I was little. I’m not crazy about prom-y seated dinners or Christmas-at-Aunt-Martha’s type buffets and want the emphasis to be on the dessert. Most weddings I’ve been to people just pick on a couple desserts because they’re still full from dinner, which would be awful because we like the idea of having the opportunity to showcase all our favourite sweets.
We’re doing a sunset ceremony (so like 7 PM since it’s in early October) and an 8 PM reception start time. We do have some out-of-town guests (a lot of my mom’s family lives about an 8 hour drive away, some of FI’s side lives a 4-5 hour drive away) that may wait till day-of to road trip on up and I don’t want people either leaving early to find food, or getting sick. But since I have to many out of towners, I need to send the invites out within the next week or two to give them proper time to prepare. So now it’s crunch time and I need to make at least a general decision–if I go with just desserts, then I need to clarify on the invitations themselves. I think I might have to go with hors doeuvres and dessert but I really think that would ruin the vibe I was dreaming of, so I’m looking for other options to serve with desserts that people can fill up on. I’m looking at 7-8 different cheeses, a few vegan cheeses, all kinds of nuts, crackers, and tons and tons of fruit– figs, grapes, apples, blackberries, pears, and probably any other in-season fruit we find when shopping that week. Probably baguettes and semi-sweet butter as well. Would that be enough for anyone who wants something a bit more substantial? Like anyone who forgot or won’t get a chance to eat before? (PS, there are sugar-free desserts as well, so we have any dietary restrictions covered.) We’re also having champagne and a few dessert-y signature cocktails (like made with coffee, hot chocolate, and apple cider) that will be provided (along with just plain tea, milk, non-dairy milks, water, coffee, etc, if anyone wants those) and don’t want people to get sick if they stay too long (mixing too much sugar with alcohol)–but also don’t want people we rarely see to be leaving early. There will inevitably be dancing knowing our friends, so I’m also worried about that, since everyone knows too much alcohol + sugar + dancing spells disaster.
So how can I pull this off? I need to figure out a general idea before I send out these invites. We have a family tradition of doing dessert potlucks for events so I thought that originally eliminated our need for a caterer, but I can consult with one of my mom’s close friends (who owns her own catering business) closer to the date to iron out details. Also, she can provide us with literally any kind of serveware we may need.
Idea 1: Maybe an open-house style from 8-midnight (it’s in the middle of a park/conservation area inside a large city) where everyone can come and go as they please. Lots of our friends and family are quite the night owls, so this could be feasible, and there’s things to do/restaurants/bars just a 10-15 minute walk away.
Idea 2: Going out with all the out-of-towners that afternoon for a big luncheon, or hosting one or even having my mom host one. That way I can focus on the people I don’t see often, and I can make sure they get fed without having to add a full plated meal after the ceremony.
Idea 3: Provide a food truck or two later in the night. Would it be strange to have dessert then food? I could do that, a late-night-bites type thing, maybe.
Idea 4: Come up with more substantial food ideas (things that go WITH desserts, though) for people to fill up on if they so choose. But beyond what I’ve listed, I’m drawing a blank.
Any new ideas welcome, we’re pretty nontraditional and our parents are pretty easygoing as long as we’re happy, so I’m pretty open.
Should also mention Fiance and I will be bringing lots of people to our favourite local bar at the end of the night for an after-party and people can get food there as well if they wanted to.
(Note: A big part of the appeal of this type of reception was that we’re feeding lots of vegetarians (including us) and doing sweets reception is an easy way to host a party with no meat. So just whipping up some pigs in a blanket or a bbq or something is out of the question.)