Post # 1
My fiance is really encouraging me to hyphenate it, but my name is unusual to begin with and his just makes it weirder LOL! I plan on making my last name my middle initial since I don’t have a middle name.
He: But it’s sooo pretty! Hyphenate
Me: Um, you know how much DRAMA it is spelling it out right now when I make plane reservations??!! OMG We’ll be 20 minutes deep and the agent still won’t know when the name’s gonna be over.
LOL. ANyone else?
Post # 2
I still haven’t changed my name because my middle name is already a last name, and it’s almost identical to DH’s name. A name that would be very similar, without writing my full name online, would be Kaylina Ritter Rotter.
And because my last name is a color, I don’t want to make my last name my middle. It just doesn’t seem right to me as a middle name.
So here we are 8 months into marriage, still no actions taken on the name front, lol! Darling Husband and I actually intend to both change our names to something entirely new, probably this summer for our anniversary.
Post # 3
I have a hyphenated last name and although the names sound okay together, and one of them is easy to pronounce, the other isn’t. Also, NO ONE calls me by both, it’s just too long and I only end up using them on legal documents.
My dh suggested I use my maiden name as a middle name and then take his as a last name…. but I didn’t want to do that when we were married. I was known professionally by my maiden name and wanted to keep it. That said…. now my last name is very long. When I introduce myself in meetings at work I usually just use his name and use both on checks, on legal documents, etc. It’s a bit of a pain 🙂 so I understand your point!
Post # 4
I would just choose one, not hyphenate.
I wanted to hyphenate because my daughter still has my ex’s last name. She’s very sensitive and I was worried she would feel left out or abandoned. Also, I was married young, so I’ve had this name for over 12 years for my entire professional career.
Buuttt, Fiance doesn’t like me keeping my ex’s last name in any capacity, which I totally get. He wants to claim me 😂 So I am changing it to his name exclusively. I decided to do that after a talk with my daughter about it and she understood. I figured the same thing would happen as a PP mentioned – it would get too annoying to keep using both and I would eventually drop my current last name when introducing myself anyway.
Post # 5
lovelyruby : I love the idea of changing it to something new altogether. 🙂 I pitched that but I can’t tell if he thinks I’m crazy or thinks it’s a cool idea. lol.
Post # 6
SmartCookie1 : GAWD it’s not only LONG, but ethnic, so you put both of our names together and literally the only letters in the alphabet not covered in it are X and Q I think. lol. I’ve meant to sit down and actually diagram it but I think that’s the only letter not covered. hahaa.
Post # 7
My current surname is hyphenated and a lot of the time people spell it wrong or only write half of it so I decided to take fis name.
Post # 8
joeandmee : aren’t all names ethnic? …
we are in in a similar situation. His surname is 8 letters, mine is 11. I’m not willing to take his name and he’s not willing to make a new combo name, but we want to share a name, so we will chop my name in half and hyphenate my half with his full surname. We will both take this name legally and socially. His name does not lend well to halving like mine does.
Post # 9
I’m a business owner, and my business IS my name, which I started before marriage. I dropped my middle name and became First Maiden Married. Everyone has a different preference. I wouldn’t in a million years hypenate because it’s such a pain in the ass on official documents. Every single friend I have with a hypenated name hates it. Almost every one of them ends up just using one name or convenience. Because almost everyone knows me as my maiden name (especially within the community) I use my full name a lot – and that’s enough of a pain in the ass (trying to remember when I call places will they know me as Maiden or Married) I can’t imagine if I hypenated. Whenever I travel my boarding passes always cut off a chunk of my last name b/c my maiden is long. I always get the side-eye at customs when they match it with my passport.
Post # 10
My husband and I birth hyphenated. Our married last name is 20 characters long (with hyphen). At first it was a little frustrating as we tried to figure out who had us under what last name. Now, it’s a lot easier. Occasionally, we still use our old names at places like the Vet to make life easier. Overall, we are really happy that we made the decision that we did, and created an individual identity for our family. With that being said, what you do with your last name is entirely your choice. If you do end up hyphenating, it does take some time (and patience) to get used to it. I used to introduce myself as Jane (not my real name) Doe, pause, then Deer because I was so used to being called Jane Doe.
Post # 11
Ugh. Both of our last names end in -son and sound ridiculous hyphenated. I want to change my name (partially because it’s my father’s and we have zero relationship), but I also have publications etc. under my maiden name which make it professionally complicated. It would be so much easier if I could do First Maiden Hisname but it ends up being like Jane Johnson Thomson and I feel like I should just bite the bullet and transition completely.
Post # 12
A bit of a different scenario – my maiden name is Ukranian, a total cluster of consonants; I had to spell it out every time I said my name. My husband jokes I spent a collective 2 weeks of my life spelling my last name. When we got married, I made my maiden name my middle name and took my husband’s last name — a really easy, American, 4-letter surname. I usually go by all 3 names but it’s definitely nice to have an easier last name but not feel like I “lost” my old name. Worth noting that I never liked my middle name, so I had no issues dropping it and replacing with my maiden name.
Post # 13
I’m considering a hyphenated name, but it would be 20 characters, so I feel you on the ‘when will this thing end…’
Post # 14
I was hypenated at birth … an 8 -etter french surname paired with a 7-letter swedish last name. It was a pain growing up. I always encourage people not to hyphenate because it’s just not functional in real life.
When I got married I thought this was it – I’ll be able to get rid of it. Finally. Not so fast. Since I was not given a middle name at birth the DMV forced me to use my maiden name as my middle name. It’s the longest middle name in the world. Luckily no one cares about a middle name, but yikes.
Post # 15
Haha omg, i neeeed to know what this last name is!!! Can’t you spell it out like A – N – D – E – R – S – O – N or something so it won’t pop up if someone googles it? 😀 LOL
Or do something like An***son and tell us that *** = der ? 😀 haha Sorry I am so nosey but I got really curious! 😀