Post # 1
So, I have 12 BM’s ( Yes I know, that’s a lot LOL) and I have hired a MUA team to do everyone’s faces… She’s done my face several times and a few of my BM’s for their weddings, special events, etc. So her work is known among my circle.
I have one Bridesmaid or Best Man who wants to get her face done at the mall at a counter the day of the wedding.
Here’s the dilemma:
I dont have an issue with the fact that she wants to get her face done elsewhere but as my planner started working on my prelim day of timeline, I realized a few things:
1. Wedding is a Sunday. The Mall doesnt open until 11am and is approx 25 minute drive away from the hotel where the rest of the party will be.
2. She will not be in any pre wedding photos or video shots. Those things wiil be occuring while she’s at the mall.
3. In a perfect world (which we all know isnt on someone’s wedding day) even if she does get through with her face on time, is dressed she has to get to the hotel by a certain time to get in the limo…Unlikely.
I don’t want to demand that she go with my artist but part of the fun of getting married is the pre wedding “bonding” with your girls… and she’s going to miss all of this and risk getting left all together as there are too many variables that we can’t predict.
So what do I do? Just let her get her face done and let her miss whatever parts she’s going to miss OR ask that she gets her face done along with everyone else? Is there a happy medium?
The reason she wants to go the mall is because she likes a certain brand of makeup…
Post # 3
@jna300: she likes a certain brand of makeup, that is her face and her skin. There is a reason she likes the brand she does, you need to respect that.
Post # 4
@jna300: Explain to her the timing issue like you just did in this post. Then offer to pay for her makeup and verify that the makeup artist you are hiring will/can use the bridesmaid’s own makeup if she brings it with her. If you cover the cost, and she can use her own favorite brand, there shouldn’t be a problem. My guess is that she may be too embarrassed to say that she is unable to pay for her own makeup to be done whereas she can get it done for free at the mall.
Also, my sister has severe allergies and breaks out in massive hives if she uses any makeup besides very specific brands. If your makeup artist won’t/can’t use your friend’s prefferred makeup, you can’t make your friend use the makeup artist.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@jna300: Does she understand the conflict with the day of schedule? I would point that out and tell her that if she doesn’t want the MUA doing hers that’s fine but could she at least come over to wherever you all will be during this time so she’s with the group and available for pictures. I think this would be the happy medium.
Post # 6
@jna300: Can’t your make-up artist use that brand of make-up, at least for her? Or is the real issue that she doesn’t want to pay? If payment is the issue, I’d just suck it up and pay for her since you don’t need any added stress.
Post # 7
@FLBlonde93: Thanks for your suggestion.. I think I’ll explain and offer. Its not a money issue. She only uses chanel makeup and they don’t do faces for free at the mall 🙂
I would hate for her to miss stuff because she’s at the mall, not because of the type of makeup she likes. We all have a fave makeup brands. That I respect 100%
Post # 8
@mchitt329: That’s a great idea too… Thanks!
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy
I think maybe you should talk to her. If she likes a certain brand of makeup, maybe she owns some? Maybe she could buy some? Maybe your makeup artist has some? Or would be willing to use it?
I think her going to the mall is out because of timing, and if you explain that, she should understand. But I think you should explore ways to make her happy.
Post # 10
@jna300: If she’s a Chanel girl it’s not the money for sure! Good luck! 🙂
Post # 11
If shes not there on time shes not there on time. I’m picky about my make up too. Let her do what she wants and don’t worry about what happens with her timing, there is only so much you can do. Its her problem if she misses out on the bonding.
Just focus on enjoying yourself 🙂 There’s no use in causing potentiol drama over this, its not worth it.
Post # 12
I think the issues you outlined are totally legitmate (the time of the mall openning/ distance/traffic). But you said pre wedding photo? As in the bridal party pics… If thats the case then yeah I think she should agree to get her makeup done at the hotel. If you just mean getting ready pics, I think she can get a pass on that.
Simply talk to her openly about it. Honestly if you have 12 BMs there will be more than enough bondng time. I really don’t think you are going to really miss on her being there. As you stated, anything can happen especially when you have such large bridal party (people will be late etc).
Post # 13
Thanks All… really great suggestions. I’ve shared the timeline contraints with her. She didnt want me to pay, and said she would work with the artist at chanel to get done in time to make photos. Although I am not totally convinced that it will go as smoothly as she thinks, she will have to get in where she fits in if she it set on going to the mall.. One person does not stop the show 🙂
Have a great day Bees!