(Closed) Lone Bridesmaid Dilemma…

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What do do with this lone BM?
    Let her go the mall and if she's late, she's late? : (7 votes)
    32 %
    Make her go with your MUA? : (15 votes)
    68 %
  • Post # 3
    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @jna300:  she likes a certain brand of makeup,  that is her face and her skin. There is a reason she likes the brand she does, you need to respect that.

    Post # 4
    1877 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @jna300:  Explain to her the timing issue like you just did in this post.  Then offer to pay for her makeup and verify that the makeup artist you are hiring will/can use the bridesmaid’s own makeup if she brings it with her.  If you cover the cost, and she can use her own favorite brand, there shouldn’t be a problem.  My guess is that she may be too embarrassed to say that she is unable to pay for her own makeup to be done whereas she can get it done for free at the mall.

    Also, my sister has severe allergies and breaks out in massive hives if she uses any makeup besides very specific brands. If your makeup artist won’t/can’t use your friend’s prefferred makeup, you can’t make your friend use the makeup artist.


    Post # 5
    4439 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @jna300:  Does she understand the conflict with the day of schedule?  I would point that out and tell her that if she doesn’t want the MUA doing hers that’s fine but could she at least come over to wherever you all will be during this time so she’s with the group and available for pictures.  I think this would be the happy medium.

    Post # 6
    1293 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    @jna300:  Can’t your make-up artist use that brand of make-up, at least for her? Or is the real issue that she doesn’t want to pay? If payment is the issue, I’d just suck it up and pay for her since you don’t need any added stress.

    Post # 9
    444 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

    I think maybe you should talk to her. If she likes a certain brand of makeup, maybe she owns some? Maybe she could buy some? Maybe your makeup artist has some? Or would be willing to use it? 

    I think her going to the mall is out because of timing, and if you explain that, she should understand. But I think you should explore ways to make her happy. 

    Post # 10
    1877 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @jna300:  If she’s a Chanel girl it’s not the money for sure!  Good luck! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 11
    892 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    If shes not there on time shes not there on time. I’m picky about my make up too. Let her do what she wants and don’t worry about what happens with her timing, there is only so much you can do. Its her problem if she misses out on the bonding.

    Just focus on enjoying yourself ๐Ÿ™‚ There’s no use in causing potentiol drama over this, its not worth it.

    Post # 12
    7405 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I think the issues you outlined are totally legitmate (the time of the mall openning/ distance/traffic). But you said pre wedding photo? As in the bridal party pics… If thats the case then yeah I think she should agree to get her makeup done at the hotel. If you just mean getting ready pics, I think she can get a pass on that. 


    Simply talk to her openly about it. Honestly if you have 12 BMs there will be more than enough bondng time. I really don’t think you are going to really miss on her being there. As you stated, anything can happen especially when you have such large bridal party (people will be late etc).  


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