- 2 years ago
- Wedding: August 2018
Hello, bees! Hope you’re all having a great day! 🙂
My fiance and I booked our venue about a week ago or so. So I started to look for options for my wedding dress… However, I’m in a weird situation where I’m not excited about the whole wedding dress shopping experience at all, and to be honest, not excited about the whole wedding planning experience at all. It sucks to say it out loud. It is because I know from the fact and my current situation, I am going to have to shop my wedding dress alone. I need your honest opinions or tips on how to shop a wedding dress alone. Here’s a bit of a background:
1) My fiance and I are from different countries. We met in country A (still overseas for both of us) while we were living and working there. Then we moved to country B (we have no relatives or friends here) together due to his job, before we even got engaged. I quit my job before we moved to country B, and I haven’t gotten to meet many people, so I don’t have any girl friends to ask to shop with me.
2) My mom lives in where I’m originally from, and I have two sisters who are very close to me. However, both of my sisters live in two different countries, so basically three of the most important women (my mom and my two sisters) in my life live in three different countries that are not so close from where I live now.
3) I would say that I have a close relationship with my Future Mother-In-Law, but she lives in where my fiance’s originally from. My fiance and I are all by ourselves in country B.
4) My fiance doesn’t want to see me in ANY wedding dresses before the wedding.
So, these are the basic facts…! And here are some of my thoughts, more of venting perhaps…
My dad is no longer in my life, and my mom is somewhat sad about me not having a father figure in my wedding. It’s tough to even mention about my wedding plans with my mom sometimes because I don’t want to make her feel sad. I told her that I started looking for my dress, and now she’s sad because she won’t be here to shop my dress together. I would really like to involve my mom when I shop for my wedding dress, but all of us with the time difference, Skyping with my mom and sisters while I’m shopping, would be a bit challenging.
There’s a chance my fiance and I will go to his country in a few months because of his work, and he suggested what if I shop with his mom. As I mentioned, I think I have a great relationship with my Future Mother-In-Law, so I’d like that, but again I almost certain that my mom would be sad that she’s not there with me. My mom loves my fiance and his side of the family, so she won’t be jealous, but she will be sad. I do not want that, so I politely told my fiance that I’d like it, but I also don’t hurt my mom’s feelings. While he understands that, I have a feeling my Future Mother-In-Law might feel left out or even sad if I don’t go to a dress shopping with her when we visit them.
It’s not realistic for one of my family members or even myself to get on a plane and go to a dress shopping together before my wedding, even though I wish that was possible. I feel a little sad and exhausted to think of going to shops and trying on dresses alone. I can be an overly independent person sometimes because I always like to do my own things alone and have been living in overseas more than 12 years now + moved to four different countries in the past. But this time, I’m a bit emotional and really miss my family. I’m so sorry it’s getting long – I know I have to shop my dress alone + am feeling emotional about it.
I am thinking of A) going to bridal shops alone and trying on dresses to see what kind of style I like, B) shopping online.
I was so close to deciding just shop online so that I don’t have to stress over me going to bridal shops alone in a foreign country + I cannot drive alone yet. I’ve checked David’s Bridal and CocoMelody (which I found lots of pretty dresses I like) so far. But I’m not so sure about shopping online because I’m a typle of person who always tries things on before the purchase. I always do.
It’s not the ideal situation for me, it sucks, but I just want to make this experience as pleasant as possible for myself. I wasn’t even going to wear a wedding dress because we weren’t going to have a wedding at the beginning (we wanted to elope). Since we decided to have a wedding, I might as well make it better and enjoyable as much as I can.
I know I won’t be the only bride who has to shop a wedding dress alone. If you are / have been in my situation, or know someone who has been, please do share any tips or stories! It would be very much appreciated if you could tell me any online shops you know as well. We’re having an ocean view wedding nearby a beach, so will take pictures on a beach afterward. I’m thinking of getting a beach wedding appropriate wedding dress!
Thank you all so much for reading this to the end. You’re the best! Hope you have a great day! 🙂
EDIT: To those of you who has / had to shop your wedding dress alone because of loss of your parents, I am truly sorry for your loss. I do not mean to be rude or anything, hope you can understand. Sending you love!