Post # 31
Aw Bee, that would be hard. I know I would be missing my mom if I were you, but luckily there are so many options to include them thanks to technology! I know that you mentioned that skyping would be hard with everyone, but maybe see if you can plan ahead and they can at least try to make it work? Another option would be, as a few others have said, have the consultant take pictures and send to your family and let them help make the decision. Then you could order it online or over the phone and it wouldn’t be like you’ve never tried it on. Maybe you could try to schedule one last fitting somewhere closer to your wedding (even if it’s just to try it on) when everyone is in town. Then they could see you in it before the wedding and feel included in the dress process (since it is more than JUST shopping for it). Or ask them to help pick out shoes and accessories. If you’re wearing a veil, ask mom to pick one out (send her pictures of course of what you like/don’t like). Or if you’re searching for the perfect necklace/earrings/bracelet, send your mom and sisters on a hunt for those items. That way they would still be included in helping your with your wedding look and maybe they have special items in mind already. And of course, invite them to get ready with you if you haven’t already. My MOH’s mom lives across the country so she had her Future Mother-In-Law come with her and it wasn’t any less special. Her mom got to help her get dressed and helped out with other elements of the wedding and everyone was included and happy. No matter what, it’s going to be special because you’re picking out the dress that you’re going to be married in.
Post # 32
ladylilypad : I shopped for my dress alone. It was great!
For reference, I live 20 hours away from my family in Canada and there is nobody local to me that I’d want to bring with me. Actually even if I was back home, I don’t know that I would bring anyone.
Going solo can be a fun experience!
I went to several stores in Toronto, including a David’s.
My advice is do not buy online.
Having the one on one time with the consultant is very helpful. You can show her pictures of dresses that you like, give her your budget, and she will find dresses within your price range. If the dress is too big, they use clips at the back to pull it snug so you see how it would look after being tailored.
Sometimes you will find that the way a gown looks on a model or the hangar is not how it looks on you.
I tried on several dresses that I loved how they looked on somebody else, but I hated how they looked on me.
I’m so glad I didn’t buy online because what I was thinking of purchashing from online browsing is not what I bought after trying on the dresses.
After you go shopping, take yourself out to lunch to celebrate. It can be fun if you want it to be.
And if you really want your family there, you can setup Syke on your phone and involve your mother that way if you wish to.
Post # 33
ladylilypad : I’m glad that’s a good alternative for you!! I actually ended up finding “the one” when I was by myself. Then I Skyped with my sister at 2 different stores (on different days) so she could see me in some dresses, and also the one I was in love with.
Before you go, I’d call the shops you’re planning on visiting. Let them know the situation and see if you can Skype or Facetime your mom/sisters at the shop. I only asked at two stores, but they both said yes.
Also, make sure you don’t get pressured by the sales lady, especially since you’re by yourself. Stand your ground and if needed, repeatedly tell them you can’t make a decision on your own and need your mom/sister’s opinions before you buy.
Post # 34
Thank you so much to everyone who left comments, shared ideas and advice with me. I haven’t been well, so had to cancel my first solo dress shopping yesterday, but I rescheduled it to next week. I’m going to go to a shop alone but the staff there will take pictures of me. I will share some with my family and possibly on this site with bees! I wish I could reply all of you one by one, I’m still feeling under the weather. I sincerely thank you all for understanding my situation. Thank you!!!
Post # 35
I’ve been on several dress appointments alone. I found bridal stylists to be extremely kind, honest, and helpful because I did not have anyone else with me. They usually went above and beyond to make the experience feel special for me. In fact, most of the girls told me that the process is less stressful for everyone involved when it is just the bride making decisions when the gowns are on.
The best thing to do is ask the stylists to take LOTS of pictures for you. Plus, its a better way to reflect and examine the dresses and share your favorites with your family. And, my personal favorite, ask the amazing Bees here for their opinions and thoughts. They are insightful and have great taste.
Post # 36
I took my daughter dress shopping with me! She was the best because she was so excited and is always so complimentary but honest at the same time + she was really helpful doing up the little zips! Hehe Do you know any little girls you could take? 😆