- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
we’re keeping our wedding party small – i asked 4 girls.
i asked my bff to be my moh, my high school friend, and my two girl cousins (who im not as close with but we’re all the same ages and grew up together) to be my bms. everyone accepted with cheers and rainbows and unicorns – except one of my cousins.
i sent each of the girls a card with a silly cartoon of her and i that i drew, asking them to be my bridesmaids. my two friends had already known, and when my first cousin got her card she called me crying and laughing and a big “of course i will!” she even wrote me a heartfelt card thanking me that i got the following week.
i have yet to hear from my other cousin. she didnt show up to the engagement party (after i sent the cards) and gave me a (kindof) half-assed excuse. never acknowledged she got anything; i overheard my aunt – her mom – comment to someone else at the eparty how she cant afford things like this right now and blah blah. but no one has said anything to me.
my parents are ready to flip, should i say the word, because they think that my aunt and cousin who are known for their dramatics are just trying to cause a scene and put the attention on them. now, i have to say, im not always known to nice, so i havent said anything to her or my aunt just yet. i dont want to get nutty and start a family fight. to be honest, if she doesnt want to be a part of it for her own reasons, im fine with that. can she at least tell me?
the thing that really makes this awkward for me is that i am working on picking out bm dresses, and since i havent called her out on this yet, i havent even thought of including her in it. in my head right now, shes not included. and i feel like im keeping it that way until she says ‘hey i got your card…”
is this wrong of me? immature? am i supposed to call her and follow through? i dont think i should have to but i dont know right now whats the right thing to do. sorry.. i know that if i were asked and didnt want to be involved, i would rather politely say something that make a big deal out of nothing.