Member- hindibee18
- 7 years ago
Hi Bees,
This is my first time on the site and I really hope you gals can help me. My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been dating for 4 years and being Hindus, our families got us proposed (official meeting between families to acknowledge upcoming wedding between the couple) after we dated for 3 years. We have been living together for a year now and our wedding date has already been set for August 10 this year. My problem is that HE hasn’t asked me yet. He knows that I have always dreamed of a romantic proposal but with 6 months left, he still hasn’t officially popped the question. The other issue is the ring. I have always spoken about princess cut diamonds and a few weeks after the “proposal” he showed me the diamond he had bought for my ring. It was a 0.4ct round cut diamond which was what I totally never expected but had suddenly become THE only diamond I ever wanted. I was so so excited that he had taken the first towards my ring. We discussed designs and I showed him a few oics of rings that I admired. One of the rings was one that I had earlier described to him as the most gorgeous ring I had ever seen. But after a few months, I realised that it was the most awful ring in the universe. It was very unique though so when Boyfriend or Best Friend told me had just designed my ring, I cautiously asked what it looked like. He didn’t tell me exactly what it was but he did say that it was maybe a combination of 2 of the rings I liked. That was a huge relief to me so I didn’t even bother to mention that I actually grealy disliked the 1 ring. Totally elated that my Boyfriend or Best Friend had gone through the trouble to actually take time and design the ring I would wear for the rest of my life, I decided to be patient and wait for my big moment. This was 6 months ago. I knew that he had sent the ring to be made when he grew secretive and I began to get a little anxious. I always let him know how excited I was that he designed the ring himself and that it would be totally unique but when he got the ring from the jeweller, I got extremely nervous. After a few days, I cracked and really wanted to see the ring. He obliged and I asked him to step out while I peeked. It was the ring I had grown to totally despise and my heart sank. I couldn’t hide the way I felt and he saw my disappointment. I know this crushed him but I felt so betrayed that he just took a ring and had it made and that he wasn’t completely honest about designing it himself. This was a month and a half ago and I totally regret my selfish behaviour. I have apologised to him but even though he has forgiven me and we have moved on, I still see the hurt in his eyes. He still hasn’t popped the question and I think that is because he suspects I have reservations about how the actual moment will turn out. How am I going to hide my disappointment when he’s down on 1 knee with a ring I don’t like. It scares the crap out of me because I don’t want to ruin the moment for either of us. Please help. I really want to be properly engaged, just not with that ring. I fell so selfish
