(Closed) Long but worth a try..

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

This is the longest post I’ve seen in the bee lol. okay I’m going back to reading it now…

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Well, i think i read all of your post and unfortunately i don’t have much advice. πŸ™ my future in laws are also quite annoying at times and i haven’t found a good coping method yet either. πŸ™

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you need to try to take the high road as much as possible. It’s clear that you and your Future Sister-In-Law don’t get along. That is totally okay, but you do still need to be polite and civil to her since both of you will be joining the family. Invite her to the wedding because she’s family and be polite to her. If she doesn’t come or acts like a jerk, that will only make her look bad.

Don’t let your Future Mother-In-Law control your life. If she wants you to be friends with Future Sister-In-Law, tell her (politely) that it’s none of her business and refuse to discuss it. If she tries to bring up any issues between you and Future Sister-In-Law, tell her to butt out and let you handle them with Future Sister-In-Law directly. Your Future Mother-In-Law probably won’t like this, but if you refuse engage her, she’ll have no choice but to accept it.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@angie3e:  

Okay I actually read all of that and I hope I read it correctly. I think you are letting those two get under your skin. I wouldn’t Feed into the drama and just let it be. Focus on the love for your partner and ignore everything else.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

It sounds like your Future Mother-In-Law is looking for something, some daughter craving characteristic that is fulfilled by your Future Sister-In-Law. If she’s unemployed and not going anuwhere in her life, Future Mother-In-Law will eventually get tired of it all and see her ways. I’m not sure how else to advise you other than I think that relationship will eventually die. 

unfortunately, most couples I know that have extreme favoritism going on like this, the “non favorite” couple usually just has to suck it up. It’s wrong, it’s so wrong, and I’m so sorry, but I just don’t know how to fix it!!! πŸ™ I’m sorry. Maybe someone else has more suggestions?

Post # 12
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Newbee

I think it’s a wise choice not to invite her to the wedding, who knows what that immature brat would try to pull off! and you didn’t need to write about your fiance’s mother being controlling, I think it was very clear from the start when she would make a big fuzz about things saying “she is not ready”… it is you and your fiance, 2 grown up adults who are getting married, it’s too bad if she is not ready, she should be thankful you are trying to celebrate with her.

About the bratt, she likes her because she is easy to control and they are both drama queens deep inside In My Humble Opinion, sorry, not trying to be mean but sometimes we have to accept this and just have to deal with it if you want the family to get along, once you get used to the idea they will no longer get on your nerves and you will be able to deal with things better.

I love long posts, I type too much myself, acronyms confuse me so I avoid them, hope I still made sense without them! best of luck and lots of patience, you will need it!!

It’s a small price to pay if your fiance is the right one for you, just remember that πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Wow, it’s the longest post I have seen.

Post # 15
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Newbee

@angie3e:  haha the future mother in law thinking she is still 21 comment made me laugh, it reminded me of how my boyfriend’s sister told me about this aunt she really dislikes, she has been taking “christmas pictures” and sending them to everyone as postcards every single year… she is always in the middle of her 2 daughters doing a sexy pose… 20something years later she is still doing it, her “sex kitten pose” haha.

I love my boyfriend’s family, they are awesome and because I want to keep it that way, I would like to keep a healthy distance. I will have to spend about 3 months where his family lives due visa paperwork and as wonderful as they are I already explained my love the reasons I have to not stay with a relative, he understands and agrees. I bet they will get tired of each other eventually, don’t worry too much about it.

I hope you and your guy can figure something out that will keep the level of drama low and it doesn’t make it too awkward for the family or you, best wishes~

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@msfahrenheit:  +1. Nicely said, though I’d probably put “butt out” in nicer terms to keep withtaking the high road lol

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