- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Story: I’m at work and overhear my boss get a phone call from my former/retired Director, who attended the wedding (as well as my boss and a few other co-workers…we are very close!.
I can clearly hear her end of the convo, with paraphrasing like “wasn’t it in June?” “what is she like 27, 28 years old?” “kids these days”
I obviously know they are talking about me, my wedding is in June, they both attended the wedding, I am 27 years old.
I go in to grab my lunch from the mini fridge outside of her office, and she changes the subject immediately!
So I make a point after she closes the convo to approach her desk with a paper to see if she needs it (my excuse/test for her to bring it up on her own) she caught the bait, and began to ask So you know I was just on the phone with Director Name ? I said yeah I heard….
She then says, “WHERE ARE THE THANK YOU CARDS??” in a snarky/trying to be nice kind of way with a half smile.
I was so caught off guard that I stumbled my words at first and looked at her dumbfounded…. (i’ve worked with her for 4 years and mix personal with business a lot..I have her daughter on FB, etc etc)
She then continued with “It’s been 4 months!” I said well I was dealing with my stepmother for some time (she was at her worst right before the wedding, and passed last month).
She said “That’s no excuse, it’s been 4 months, i’m only telling you what I would tell my own daughter”
I was like well, they aren’t JUST thank you cards, they are photo cards, not just cards that say thank you on them, I needed the pro pics back, to choose the pics, choose the etsy dealer order samples, etc…they are customized and more ellaborate….
Note: I chose to go this route because his family all does that, and I loved the idea, plus, I didn’t want a plain jane card just to send out just because, I thought it would be nice, considering my wedding was constantly compared to SIL’s.
After explaining, she snarkily says, “i’ll let you slide this time, but you know how us older generations are”.
Listen, I just received a photo thank you card from a wedding I we went to LAST october, yes October 2012….I thought it was awesome, didn’t even care I didn’t get one,…We got awesome syrup favors that said thank you on them and we used them all the time, thats enough for me.
My husbands family circle, cousins, huge italian fam, etc…all sent theirs within 4 months (that I remember) so how am I that far off? Especially with my family issues with my stepmother dying of cancer.
I barely even had time or the urge to choose photos for 1 out of 2 of our wedding albums!
I was so livid, that I said “well you know, I just keep hearing it from everyone so…” and walked out of her office… (his sister asked me a month ago, but I was still deciding, I think she was just making sure I didn’t forget, same with my MIL)
Husband said it was rude, especially her approach..she knows I have anxiety and stress easily so I don’t think it was appropriate at all, especially at work, and the fact that she had the phone convo while she shares an office with one other section manager, plus the convo she had with me with him still sitting on the other side, obviously listening!