Long commute

posted 2 years ago in Career
Post # 2
1918 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I would be looking for a new job. Right now I have a 15 minute commute and it’s great 

Post # 3
2737 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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vanessa9090 :  Don’t quit your job because your boyfriend wants you to.

Since you took the job while it was an hour closer to you, are you able to talk to your boss and see if you can work from home some days? Are you able to work different hours in order to miss some traffic? I work 7-4 so my commute is only 45 minutes, if I go in between 8-9 it can easily double.

If YOU want to leave then go for it, start looking and see what else is out there. 1.5 hours each way is definitely not an easy thing to do.

Post # 4
7395 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Can you flex your hours to accommodate traffic? IE 7-3 instead of 9-5? 

No harm in looking for something else if you aren’t loving it though. I think its always good to see whats out there.

Post # 7
1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Oh man. If that were me, I’d be looking for another job. I took a lower paying job that is 12 minutes away over ones 40+ minutes away. I’m just so happy with the short drive that it was worth more than the money to me. The short drive translated to more time to be with my dog and husband each work day which is priceless to me! Bonus, I often go home at lunch time to walk my dog!

Post # 8
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

There is no amount of money that would make me drive 90 minutes one way. I left a job because the commute had grown to be around 55-60 minutes (traffic increased over time) and it was too much. The negative affects on health are well documented. If you loved the job, I’d say look to move closer, if you don’t absolutely love the job, start looking for a closer job and be picky about where you’re willing to go. My new job, my commute is 5 minutes and I can walk if I want to.

Post # 10
151 posts
Blushing bee

I have been commuting for an hour and twenty minutes every day for two years. I’m going to be blunt – it sucks. I do get to work from home once or twice a month because of my commute, but like you, I also have to be present in the office most days. I went back and forth on deciding if I should find a new job until recently when I decided it was time to go. It affects my mental health and all of that driving makes me want to go no where on the weekends, which is opposite from my personality to begin with. Seeing family and friends has became a chore simply because it means driving. I cannot wait to have that few extra $100s in my bank account each month because I will not be paying as much in gas from a long work commute. It’s expensive. I also cannot wait to have those extra two hours in my day. 

But I have also learned to make that time useful. I am obsessed with a local comedy radio show, and I have so many podcasts that I enjoy (Wedding Confessionals is a great one). I have also finished some books from my long “must read” book list during my commute. 

So it’s doable. There can be some positives if you look for the positives. Like a previous PP said, only change jobs if YOU want to. If you don’t mind the commute or your job makes sense at the moment (like mine did – it kickstarted my career) then go for it. 

There is also the option to consider moving closer to your job. 

Post # 11
427 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I’m in a similar predicament… used to work at a place that was a manageable 45 minutes away, but my boss moved us a couple months ago to a location in the city that now takes me 1.5 hours (2 on a bad traffic day) to drive to from my home in the suburbs. Spending up to 3-4 hours a day commuting is a huge chunk of time out of my day, as I’m sure is the case for you, too.

How attached are you to this job and the work you are doing? Is there room for advancement? How long do you think you can hang on before the commute starts wearing you out?

Honestly, if the salary and benefits are not great, then maybe start looking for something a little closer to home. It sounds like you enjoy your work, but work/life balance is also important, especially when you live with a significant other. I don’t think your boyfriend should pressure you to quit, as that’s a decision that is ultimately up to you, but also be realistic with how sustainable you think this lifestyle is for you over a period of time. (For me, it’s only been a couple of months and I am exhausted 90% of the time these days. I know that I can only handle this for a max of 2 more years, so I’m already strategizing what my next move should be.)

Post # 14
2172 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

If you’re not enamored with the job, I would absolutely start looking closer to home. Long commutes suck. I did one for a while and it took a toll on everything. My relationships, my health, everything. The nice thing is you have the opportunity to be picky about a new job, so hopefully you can get one you love! 

Post # 15
151 posts
Blushing bee

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vanessa9090 :  If it makes you sick, then it’s probably time to go. 🙁 I just reread my post and I realized that it may sound like I’m suggesting you work through it. I was just letting you know that it could be a positive experience, but it also couldn’t. I tried making it a positive experience with the help of my counselor – heck I spent 2 years trying to make the commute worth it! I loved discovering some amazing podcasts and radio shows and finishing some books, but it still affected my mental health. If the commute is making you sick, I suggest putting your health first despite what your boss says. I also must mention, I actually tried looking for a new job only 6 months in of commuting and my boss gave me raise to stay. I regret falling for the raise because it did not fix my commute/health problem.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best! 

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