Long commute

posted 2 years ago in Career
Post # 17
151 posts
Blushing bee

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vanessa9090 :  That is tough Bee. It sounds like you are a hard worker and super valuable in what you do. At the same time, (I apologize if I am wrong) your boss sounds like he doesn’t hear you or doesn’t care about your health and cares more about what you bring him and the company… and that seriously bothers me. I would personally leave and stand firm with your choice despite what your boss says. I feel like we are kind of in the same spot right now because I am also looking to leave my current position due to the long commute and they give me raises to stay. This time however, I am being a little discrete about the job search and I plan to hold firm with my decision despite what they say or offer me. I do believe I will be a lot happier with a shorter commute and it will be a bonus if it’s my dream job which is what I am shooting for… and you may be a lot happier too if your commute is shorter 🙂

Post # 18
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I took a job 3 years ago that changed my commute from 5-10 minutes to 45-60 twice daily.  I made the move because the job also offered a significant (like 40k) increase.  I am now switching jobs (lateral move salary-wise) to go back to a 5-10 minute commute and frankly- would probably have taken a pay cut just to not drive for hours.  I am so over the lengthy commute.  I guess I’d say- start looking.  Who knows what you can find!

Post # 19
5088 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

It doesn’t hurt to look around for something closer. I’ve been doing a 1 hour commute each way for the last 3 years and it doesn’t really bother much too much, I use that as my “reading” time (audiobooks). If you don’t love your job and there are comparable options closer to your home, then I’d say look into it. 

Post # 20
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

It definitely doesn’t hurt to at least look at other jobs closer that would pay the same or close to it.

My commute was 1.5-2 hours one way. It was okay at first, but I later developed IBS and severe anxiety so the commute became a special kind of hell. The anxiety alone made me call out at least once a week. Eventually my work moved closer to me so my several train/subway commute became a 20 minute drive. It was amazing how much stress was lifted off of me.

Your health and sanity are worth more than money. If you’re miserable, make a change. 

Post # 22
427 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

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vanessa9090 :  The stress of a long commute can definitely cause changes in mood, like increased anxiety, as well as a number of physiological changes, including a decrease in immune function. You are wearing yourself down more, which is probably why you are getting sick more often now. I think a change is definitely in order, because your health is a priority. 

I also feel you on going out. I have gotten used to going out a lot on weekends, as well as sometimes going out during the week too. And lately, I just have less time and energy for things like that, so I seldom go out during the week anymore. We’ll still uphold our weekend commitments, but I’m much more exhausted throughout, and I don’t get to properly recharge before starting another work week. It’s been frustrating, because my fiance still wants to do all these things, and I’m struggling to find the energy. It feels almost like I’m being forced to change who I am, if that makes sense.

Post # 23
792 posts
Busy bee


I did a commute which was 60 miles EACH WAY. It sucked a LOTTTTT! I really loved my job so hung to it as long as possible.

But if I could make a choice, I would 1) get another job, or 2) move! But in your case it seems that moving is not an option so I’d go with #1 and look for another job.


Post # 24
9382 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

don’t accept the bonus and raise if you want to leave.  start interviewing, see what’s out there.  and when you find another job, give in your 2 weeks notice and leave.


Post # 25
1006 posts
Bumble bee

Keep your options open.  You don’t have to leave right away but if something good comes along with a better commute, you should hop on it.


Post # 26
3276 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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vanessa9090 :  14hrs plus a week would be much too long commute. I’m with your bf, would definitely look for something closer to home!

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